Questions, views and opinions

 From Madam Alice

at the moment billie still has to finish a post about my Friday visit to John's house for Dinner and a "stop over" from the other week.  It should be finished soon (otherwise he will be seeing it mentioned in his weekly review on Thursday).

We often get emails via the blog and often it is from people who read the blog and want to know more about us or about what we think or even ask advice or thoughts on certain things.

Some time the questions makes us want to write a very specific blog post and then there are others that are best answered directly by email.  billie tends to be the filter and responds to most.

Occasionally we get negative emails that don't like what we do and disagree with our lifestyle, which is fine.  If the email is generally polite (which most are) we will engage to explain our view point on it.  In several cases it has been to reassure people that all of this is consensual and that I am not the Evil Queen who is torturing and abusing my poor pathetic husband - which is most certainly not the case. (if nothing else Mick is not a poor pathetic husband).

We try to assure people that we are very much a loving couple and still very much in love and lust with each other - just because it doesn't conform to the particular "norm" of an individual or group doesn't mean that it is wrong, it is just different.

If we can explain things and we do try to do that in between all of the "kink" and some people get to see a different view then great, but if you don't agree with it, don't like it or it offends then please just pass us by.

We have a particular point on the blog:

    we will not discuss politics, we have our views and we have out preferences as do our friends and blog readers, you don't come to this blog for politics so we aren't going there.

    Religion - we don't care what religion our readers are and we're not particularly religious.  if you think what we are doing is abhorrent to your faith and not compatible with your faith then that's fine with us, again just pass us by.  Myself, billie/Mick and John are not particularly religious but we can understand that some people need a faith.

    Race, colour, etc - don't try and draw us into this, yes we are white, but I've had an Asian Boyfriend in the past and John has had relationships with Asian and Black women in the past.  we are not offended by any particular groups, races or nationalities.  This blog is not about that type of thing.

This image kind of sums things up -

so please enjoy our kinky blog, give us feed back via comments and if you want contact us direct with a question, but the aim is to have a blog that we enjoy and if you don't like something then we'll try and explain our view and if you are still not happy then move onto another blog there are lots of good stuff out there for everyone.

but if you like what we do then keep looking in on us.

keep safe and try to stay sane (and keep it fun!)

Very Kind Regards

Alice.

Instructions from Sir for the weekend

 At lunch time today I was just clearing Madam's plate when I heard her personal phone ping with a text, by the time I got to the kitchen my phone also pinged with a Text.

we both have 2 mobile phones, one that is for work and Vanilla usage and one that is our phone for our normal use.

My message was from Sir and it simply stated that I was to check my emails as he had sent through some instructions for the weekend.

I informed Madam of what I'd received and she also said that she had a text from John and that she would be having a conversation with him later in the afternoon.  Madam then went back to her study and I was told to bring tea and a couple of biscuits at 3 pm.

I went and changed out of my Maids outfit into pencil skirt and blouse and headed to my office.  immediately regretted not putting on a jumper or coat as it's been a bit cold today.

I opened my personal emails, and there was a email from Sir:

"billie,

This Friday evening I plan to host my Girlfriend over at my house for dinner and to fuck her senseless. I have a number of requirements and tasks for you to do to ensure that the evening runs smoothly.

Thursday - come to the house and I will have laid out some items that I will require ironing, also there is washing that will need to be done.  Ensure that there is a fresh set of bedding ready to be fitted to the bed on Friday.  Also I will have prepared a shopping list for you to take with you when you do the grocery shop on Friday morning (money will be with the list).

I will also require you to clean the kitchen.

All of this work will be carried out by the maid, you can change in the utility room when you arrive.

Friday Morning - do your normal grocery shop, but also purchase the items on my list.

Friday Afternoon - The maid is to change the bedding and prepare the bedroom, you know what needs to be placed in the bedside drawers, also bring Alice's overnight bag and hang her items in the wardrobe and lay out her toiletries in the bathroom etc.

I want the dining table set up in the end of the lounge for 2 people but with one place setting at the end and the other next to it rather than at the opposite end - I want your wife within easy reach of me during the meal.

Ensure that there is 2 bottles of white in the fridge and that there is ice in the freezer.

Ensure that the tablet is fully charged and placed in the bedroom.

I want all tasks complete by 4pm, I will be home at 4.30pm to prepare for the evening.

Friday Evening - I expect you to help prepare Alice for her evening with me, I will be chatting to her about what lingerie i'd like her to wear, she will not need a dress so she will be travelling with just her coat over the top.

You will act as her driver for the evening, I want her to arrive at my home at 7pm, sharp and I'll expect you to be dressed appropriately - jacket, blouse, skirt and heels.  ensure that you open her door for her when you arrive, if she brings another bag you are to carry it in for her, bring it in and take it to the bed room.

You will not be required for the evening, but your wife may have some tasks for you at home.

when you get home, you are to change into your maids uniform and keep your phone with you at all times.

Your wife will inform you of what will be expected of you for the evening.

I will bring Alice back to her house on Saturday at some point, we will send you a message when we are about to leave my house.

You are to send me a text message to inform me that you have read and under stood my instructions

With Regards

John"

I've sent the message back to Sir.  I took Madam her Tea and biscuits at 3pm and she said that she knew about my instructions and that she was thinking about she would give me to keep me occupied on Friday Evening.

Madam has told me she wants me to take her travel toiletries bag taken over on Friday afternoon but she will have an overnight bag go with her on Friday evening.  Madam had also directed that my skirt on Friday evening should be my short black pleated skirt rather than the dark blue knee length one.

It has the feeling that it is going to be an interesting weekend.

Dressing appropriately for the task at hand

 From Madam Alice:

Afternoon everyone, working from home today and since I started early today I'm taking a short bit of time out until my next meeting.

The thoughts for this post came from our blog friend Poppet who has recently got a new domestic maids uniform. (if you haven't seen her blog then I strongly recommend that you pop over and see what she is upto - use this link or the link in our side bar - https://poppetsubslut.blogspot.com/ )

One of the things that I like to do with billie is make sure the outfit that he wears is appropriate for the task in hand. Now this isn't just the dress or the top layer, this is the whole ensemble.

Take for example, a Domestic Maid uniform that Poppet has, billie has a similar long sleeved one, this is a functional piece of work wear, it's for doing the cleaning, mopping, hovering etc, so I also want my husband to have the rest of the outfit to be functional.

So for domestic maids wear we will have the dress, long line bra, open bottom girdle, shape wear knickers, Black opaque stockings or high denier stockings, shoes with the moderate heel 3or 4" in billie's case.  My preference is that the underwear is black.  this is all functional and practical, this isn't about getting some type of thrill for the sissy, so everything is snuggly tidied away in the underwear so that the sissy can focus on domestic work about the house.

 For the evenings or when I want a more formal maid then we go for the Sissy Maid/ French maid style.  Shorter skirt length, heels with at least 4", skirt undernet to push it out waist clincher with bra/basque/ corset etc with 6 suspenders and black stockings either seamed or lace topped.  panties will be at my discretion.  there should be some make up.  I want billie to be in the frame of mind for service to me and my guest, while being very much the sissy parody of a sexy maid.  The skirt is enough to cover her modesty but easy enough to access by wandering hands or to lift up to fully expose.

The last one on the maid front is the submissive sissy maid outfit.  this is a uniform that has one function - to humiliate the sissy, for billie this is to expose him for what he is, my submissive sissy cuckold husband (and I do love him for it).  The dress is not practical as work wear but it conveys the message that the wearer is there to serve her Alphas while exposed as the submissive beta male/sissy.

The dress will be very short and the skirt will either be held out by netting or just to short, the panties (if worn will be exposed and show the chastity in place.  A basque or corset will be worn  with black stockings, the suspenders and stocking tops are fully exposed. Heels will be 4" minimum and possibly higher with a platform sole.

This is the outfit that I have billie wear often when John is over, it clearly defines who is the male in the house and who is the submissive beta.

Billie's office attire is also aimed to be functional and appropriate.  I had an image in my head when we looked to create Ms Watson, Mick's office assistant.  The pencil skirt with a white blouse (I do like the pussy bow style for her) with black heels all suggest the office professional, black underwear probably a corselette or full bra and girdle, with plain top stockings.

The other option is the office tart, a sheer blouse, short skater skirt  and a basque and stockings, heels will be 4" or higher, this is the type of sissy that flashers her stocking tops and if not watched would go to work with no knickers on.  Ms Watson is quite capable of taking on both roles in the office.

The last type of dress uniform that we have for billie is the school outfit.  this is normally a punishment type of uniform and is often seen on a Thursday Evening.  As part of the review depending on what may have contributed to the main need for corrections will dictate what the dress for the review will be.  For example if the misdemeanours have been a lack of diligence in cleaning and maid duties then billie will attend in the French Maid uniform.  if it is more about attitude and general conduct then it will be the school girl outfit.  I will want to chastise billie, perhaps scold and apply some corporal punishment so the school outfit sets the tone and mindset for the event.

For this it is a white blouse (may be sheer), black underwear of bra, suspender belt (4 or 6 suspenders), plain top stockings and full cut panties - black or white.  Heels should be 4" minimum.  the skirt can be a short tartan skirt or short plain coloured skater skirt.

When my darling husband is told to dress in his school girl attire he knows that he is going have a sore bottom from his Head Mistress!

So you can see it I have reasons for what I require billie to dress in, it isn't just the top layer but a full package.  Yes it provides me with entertainment and it often humiliates billie but that's what makes our relationship go round.  

Back into a routine.

 Hello everyone, hope you are all well.

it's been a while since we have blogged properly and we have had a few things going on, some good and some not so good.

so lets get the rubbish bit done - I've been using a lot of my free blogging time dealing with hunting down and deleting Spam comments and problems that we have had with the blog and this has at times been quite demoralising the worst that we had was 50 spam posts in a day and not only does that clog the blog page it also clogs up the emails.  I am getting on top of it but it is a pain and consumes a lot of time.

The other think that has been causing an issue and consuming time has been a increase in work that relates to doing training and assessing via on line.  now this is an area of work that normally I enjoy but with everyone's rush to have training delivered on line has meant that quite a lot of Organisations want me to deliver training but don't quite understand the way the training has to be delivered.  so I've had a lot of work explaining things to the Organisations and Colleges how to deliver the training.  

However it hasn't just been all work, we have been able to get back into our normal routine.

Our neice has now fully moved into her new home and started work and we have the house back.  After moving the last of her belongings from storage and having taken the hire van back myself and Madam returned home and collapsed down on the living room settee. After about 5 minutes just sat gathering ourselves Madam made the announcement - "Right go to your room, get undressed, put on some heels - and nothing else and make me a cup of Tea!" 

off I went and by the time Madam reappeared she was just in a pair of heels with stockings and a suspender belt.  we spent the rest of the evening in that state of undress.  As Madam put it, "guests don't realise how much of an disruption it is when you have to refrain from receiving oral sex in your own lounge", which I thought was an interesting way of putting it!

The back log of lingerie washing has been dealt with, and I'm very much back in my Maids room and the Morning Routine is back in place with me bringing Madam her morning coffee and waking her with my tongue.

The mornings are pretty much my domestic chores and the afternoons have me down in the office - Ms Watson is not really in attendance as my afternoon is pretty much filled with Skype/ Teams/ Zoom meetings and that is a real hassle as everything is now a bloody meeting on line, where as in the past it would be a email, phone call or go out and visit the client.  it is just too easy to "have a meeting!" so as a rule it's a case of wearing my lingerie, a coloured blouse with tie, my jacket and a pair of chinos.  I can get away with heels but thats about it.  Madam is toying with the idea of a woman's trouser suit but she's not found one that she thinks would work for me.  Its an interesting idea though, Madam has always been keen on the idea of getting a skirt and jacket suit for office wear, this may just be the evolution of it.

Madam has been working from home, generally one or two days a week. normally the days she would have gone into London, Its really nice having her at home (and fun when we don't have part time lodgers). but it also allows me to serve he a little bit more formally during the day.

John has restarted coming round as the regular house guest rather than as a friend popping over to catch up with Alice and Mick.  so things are starting to begin again on that front.

overall we are all well.  All three of us are busy but getting our routine back on track.  hopefully I can keep on top of the Spam issues and get back to some sort of regular blogging.

One last point, we've had several emails, mixed in with the spam emails, hopefully we have responded to everyone that emailed via the Blog.  We do try and answer all of the emails, even the critical ones, if we have missed you please try and gain and we'll aim to get a responce to you either by return email or via a post here on the blog.

coming back soon

 From Madam Alice

Good Morning Everyone,

Just to let you know we are still very much alive and still here.  2020 continues to be the pain in the backside to us all.

Mick has been in an almost daily battle with SPAM posts to the blog and he thinks that he has almost dealt with finding a deleting them - we were averaging about 20 every day, but we think we have identified the main culprit and we are hopping to get some action from Blogger.

Work has taken a number of different twists for all 3 of us but not in a bad way but it does mean that we are trying to get a balance that will allow us to keep up with blogging and posting.

On the Family front, my niece has now moved into her new house and we have the run of the house back - as can be see with my husband tottering about the house in his heels and stockings and my boyfriend is back spending the weekends with us.

On Mick's family front we have other issues and that has what has been consuming a lot of time for us and a lot of stress for Mick, but hopefully that is about to be resolved and I can get my billie back to normal and settled into a routine that he wants and needs.

please bear with us, we will be back to full blogging soon.

kind regards

Alice

An Update, soon to get back to the old routine.

Good Morning Everyone, hope you are all well.

all being well our house guest will be moving into her new home next week - we've been to check with the solicitors and she should be collecting the keys very shortly.  so I can see me being tasked with helping to collect her belongings that are in storage and helping to move in.  And hopefully that will mean that the house will be back to normal (well our kind of normal??!!)

Work has been on the increase for both Madam and myself, with me creating and delivering more training on line, and there has definitely been an increase in the need to mentor several candidates going forward for professional examinations - so it has been busy for me.

Madam has been busy both in her work office and working from home, the good thing is that she hasn't needed to travel into the London Office and to be honest that isn't a bad thing for her.

Sir's company is fully back in work and again they seem to be busy with every one in and also allowing for flexible working.

So all is good on the vanilla front.  But that isn't probably what you want to hear about.....

So my progress in chastity is as usual  very frustrating, I'm at that stage where I'm quite leaky, so I'm going through a lot of panties at the moment, which is bloody frustrating as I can't put too many through the wash as an over observant niece is almost knicker counting - she spotted quite early on that her Aunt was going through a lot of underwear compared to her uncle!.  So there are times that the en-suite bathroom is a bit of an adhoc laundry room with the extra knickers being washed and dried in there rather than on the line in the garden.

The weather has been such that we've all taken a break from stocking wear - but only briefly. The weather over the weekend was particularly hot for us and I'm not sure I would have gotten away with hosiery with my shorts without some comment from the niece!  However full underwear requirements will be back in place next week I think.

As mentioned in our previous posts I've been spending every night in Madam's room, either on the mattress on the floor or in the bed with her.  the one thing that has been a regular thing is that Madam has become very keen to use her strap ons with me each night.  

When we retire for the night I will go up first and shower.  I'll dry myself and then put on one of my new babydoll nighties and a pair of stockings and a suspender belt, then get into Madam's bed and wait for her.

When Madam comes up she will head straight to the shower.  once she is done then one of 2 things will happen.  If Madam comes out of the bathroom wearing as Strap On (she has one that lives in her toiletries cupboard)  then then I know that she wants to be very dominant and quite aggressive.  She will normally take charge immediately either telling me to roll over or to get out of the bed and onto my knees to orally serve her dildo.  And from that point on I will do what ever she wants me to do, but it invariably will involve her fucking me quite aggressively.

If she comes to bed with out the Strap On then she will want me to be ready to go down on her and provide oral worship to her.  Madam know that this is my most favourite task and that I really do enjoy serving her in this way.  Madam will decide (quite rightly) whether I continue to completion with her or if I need to stop and get one of her toys to use on her.  In the past she  may have asked me to wear one of the strap on harnesses with a dildo and then make love to her but as she points out there is less requirement for me to do that as she just has to visit Sir for that service.  So for me it is often using one of her vibrators on her to bring her to Orgasm. 

Which ever route the evening takes Madam always goes to sleep having achieved at least one orgasm and her submissive husband is always left frustratingly drippy but very happy to have served his Mistress Wife.

We are both looking forward to when we have the house back to ourselves and we can stop being so confined to our normal activities and also we can start to have Sir back as our normal weekend "guest".

Not long now.....hopefully!

billie xxx

Chastity - why do that to yourself?

I've managed to get time in the office again and with a bit of spare time I thought that I'd respond to a question but publish it to everyone as it raised a valid point.

"Why do you accept or tolerate being made to wear a cock cage at all, let a lone for long periods?"

Firstly I'm a willing participant in this activity of chastity wear, yes the control and the period of being caged is not in my remit but I willing wear the cage.  So while there is a "forced" aspect it isn't something that I'm against.

I tolerate it as it, while it is frustrating at quite a few times, it does allow me to quite focused in the relationship that I have with my Wife.  you'll notice I haven't used Mistress or Madam, this is all about the relationship in our marriage.  When we realised that our arguing and clashes in the relationship were borne out of the induced stresses and frustrations being applied from outside for both Alice and myself, we had a good sit down and a very brutal and honest chat.

I was working like hell, running multiple projects, almost constantly travelling and effectively running on next to no sleep.  While the mental stresses were high they also came with physical stresses and the ability to make love and have sex with Alice was just a big struggle.  Added to which this would then be compounded by being top dog at work and trying to let that go when I did eventually get home. all a bit of a car crash.

This created frustrations with Alice, she wanted to take the options that were being offered through her work, she wanted challenges from her work and she was frustrated both sexually and by me and my work.

The mental meltdown made things change.

Our early sex life was full, varied and definitely not boring.  As part of my recovery we were advised to reinvigorate our sex lives by getting back to being intimate with each other, but the physical stresses made it difficult for me and so we found that if I abstained for a week and did more Oral on Alice in the interim we could get things to work.

With Alice taking control and the start of the FLR we found our actual natural places.  Alice as the Dominant and me as the submissive, but still very much a loving couple, and that has been the strengthener in the marriage.

The friendship and relationship with Carole and Kerri has also helped to improve things for us both.  it was a journey and it would take us both on the trip.  The developing the Bisexual side of both of us was not expected and to be honest it has been a real help, now whether that has been due to accepting bisexuality or the actual relationships that we developed with Carole and Kerri - I would say that it was the latter, but others may take a different view.

My focus in life is always Alice, its why I pushed myself probably beyond where I should have (I was earning to look after Alice, her sister and her 2 girls, our nieces, at that point in time), so I continued that and once into the submissive role in the FLR it allowed me to focus purely on the woman that I love.

Now I wasn't completely knackered downstairs, it does work and as I recovered I found that erections and recovery times got better but it wasn't back to what it had been.  Added to that I was never that well hung.  I did sense that Alice was missing out and was very frustrated and while my efforts at sex were OK at best I did need to supplement things either orally or with toys.  As my libido diminished I could sense Alice's increased.

The move in jobs and location allowed Alice to have a new start and we discussed to potential for Alice to relieve some of her frustrations with perhaps an affair or one night stand.  Carole had discussed cuckolding and at this point we were open to the idea.  So Alice started work using her maiden name and settled into her new job.  After a while she would be invited out for a girls night out and had the occasional one night stand.  I would say that sort of helped but as she put it she wanted something more regular but with less risks - something where all parties knew about each other and that things were being done with consent.

At about this time, 2005, we started experimenting with chastity devices when we purchased a CB2000.  this was a device that wasn't really for long term wear and was more of a wear for a day or 2 at a time but Alice found that by getting me to wear it when she went out for a night with the girls or to meet someone has a significant effect on me when she returned.

we also found that by putting me in the cage a few days before and then teasing upto and beyond going out had a real positive effect on me sexually.

So chastity has a really good impact or our sex lives.

the next thing about it was once she had a regular boyfriend I would find myself in chastity on a more regular basis.  We had progressed to trying different cages at this point and the CB6000 and 6000s seemed to work for longer or more regular wear.

Alice spotted that there was something missing (I hadn't noticed but she was right - possibly Carole may have pointed it out, I'm not sure) and that was that with the FLR developing and becoming stronger I should be more active in the cuckolding.  Looking back it was totally right, Alice wasn't pushing me out quite the opposite but her Boyfriend at the time was not keen on having me involved or around when he was with her.  But when she came back she was all over me, and the frustrations of the chastity allowed both of us to really enjoy each other sexually and emotionally - that may seem strange but it really was the case.yup


That relationship came to a natural close when the boyfriend had to move due to a job offer oversees.  Alice and I had a good chat about what we wanted with going forward.  We both wanted Alice to have a physical relationship, her sex drive had really picked up, and I wanted her to have it and also to deepen the FLR relationship, her one condition was that she wanted the cuckolding to be more inclusive, to have me involved and to be honest that is what I wanted as well.

Eventually we found John, Dating sites do let you find the right people (but it did mean that we found a wrong one along the way as well, but thankfully we managed to extract ourselves from that relationship at the very early stages!).

John had been with a swinging couple before meeting us where the husband was more of a cuckold "stag", someone whole liked to watch his wife with someone else, so we were not a big surprise to him.  we explained our relationship, the FLR, the cuckolding and the use of chastity and what it did for Alice and for me.  The Dominance and Submission aspect was different for him and he was intrigued by that and the chastity.  Lots of questions - sensible questions - chats with Alice and with me, both together and separately.  he went and did some research and once he was happy and we were happy he agreed to having a relationship which involved all of us.

With that he set rules and the wearing of chastity would become a significant part of that relationship.

I agreed to this, not because I was ordered to do it, but because we had a discussion, Alice explained what she wanted from John and from me, John explained what he wanted and why, and that's the important part - there was reason for it, and I discussed what I wanted out of it and we all found common ground to allow things to develop and develop they have.

so after a long post here are my reason why I choose to wear a Chasity cage

1. It allows me to indicate that I am the submissive in the relationship.
2. It shows that I am focused on the needs of my wife before myself.
3. It makes me want to please my wife.
4. while it does create frustrations it means that  can channel those towards working in our relationship.
5. I really like the change in the power dynamic in our relationship and chastity add to that.
6. It allows me to show to both Alice and John that I'm not competing with them as an Alpha.
7. By locking my penis away, means that I no long get worried about my ability to satisfy my wife in that way, this used to stress me, now that stress doesn't occur as I know I can use my other skills to satisfy her in other ways, and that creates a positive feeling.

There is a lot more that I could add but I do enjoy being locked in my cage, and truth be told both Alice and I are more sexually satisfied and active that were before we started using chastity in the FLR and Cuckolding in our Marriage.

I won't say it will work for everyone but it works for me and it works for us - Alice and me.

I hope that this explains or answers things, or maybe it poses more questions either way discussion is good and I'm sure I'll chat about chastity again.

keep safe everyone

billie xxx