27 May 2023

Chastity review and follow up.

 A few weeks ago Poppet gave a really good update on her chastity that she has been wearing for a few months now and I thought that doing the same since I had changed over to the Cobra Chastity a few months before.  

Poppet's micro chastity article

To that End I have shamelessly ripped off Poppet's idea.  I don't think she'll mind (She'll use it as an excuse to tell me off though!).

So having been progressively wearing chastity since 2005, starting with a CB2000 occasionally to spending the bulk of 2 years completely in chastity, I thought that I was fairly experienced with chastity cages.  Oh how wrong can I be!

wearing the Cobra Short.

My 2 years in full time chastity had been mainly using Franckencage and my smaller all metal cage.  Last year we discussed the plan of going down a cage size.  Madam wanted me to try a smaller Resin/ 3D printed cage, while Sir's preference was to go for a smaller all metal cage.  My preference was more pragmatic - a 50mm back ring that was curved and an internal lock system - I didn't want to go back to having a padlock clacking against the cage every time I moved.

Frankencage and an elastic band used to prevent the padlock from moving around.

The compromise was that we would get one of each and then see how we got on.  The metal cage arrived first and I spent a few days getting used to it and found that with it's weight, it pulled away from my body.  particularly if I was being teased or used and I started to get hard.  My confined erection would swell in the cage but also push it forward.  Not ideal, so the view was that a chastity support trap would be needed to use these in the future and that the resin cage would probably be better for regular wear.

A Cobra chastity with a small cage was ordered, along with a support strap that arrived shortly after.

So the cage arrived and we found that the cage was only slightly smaller (by about 5mm) than Franken Cage in length.  it was definitely thinner which was fine to accommodate my reduced girth.  So we moved over to wearing this cage and I found that it was particularly comfortable to wear during the day.  There was some pinching of the ring during the day, but that was mainly due to sitting down for too long.  I would use that as my queue to get up and have a break from the computer screen

The cage was comfortable to wear, far more comfortable that my previous metal cage, the resin made it very light and as I often wear slightly larger trousers, there were times that I forgot that I was wearing it.  I occasionally had to check with a discrete pocket fumble would feel for the cage.  

However there are a couple of issues.  The size of this cage is too long, when I become completely flaccid my clit will retract back.  This creates a problem that when I go for a pee my end of my foreskin could be pointing anywhere so great care is needed to make sure that I don't end up weeing on my self, my knickers, the floor, my trousers etc  I ended up carrying a small metal urethral tube to make sure that I could reach into the cage and manipulate my foreskin towards the bottom hole of the cage.  

There is also something that found tricky was that the plastic/ resin of the cage is wider compared to the thinner bars that make up the metal cages, this has the problem that it is slightly more difficult to clean when wearing.  with the metal cage I could normally get a way with a once a week deep clean and the rest of the time a good lathering of Shower gel and a "good blast" with the shower head.  This wasn't quite the case so a small tooth brush (soft brisles) was added to my shower routine.  

I also found that I needed to remove the cage 2 -3 times a week to give it a good deep clean.

As a Christmas present I received a smaller sized Cobra chastity cage - The nub.  This one was significantly shorter than the Small and was definitely the right size.  Very secure and combined with the Chastity support strap very comfortable for long term wear.  

Comparing the nub and the Small sized cobra

Now while the cage was extremely comfortable I was now having more pinching of the skin at the back of my balls.  The ring was the biggest that I could get, it was shaped and in theory it should be just fine.  The addition of lotions, gels, Vaseline etc did not help either.  The pinching became really annoying as it became a regular feature that would wake me in the middle of the night - several times.

The other issue that started to bother me was I was having a bit of a problem when peeing.  

Let me explain.  I would go for a wee as normal, sit down have my wee and then just wait for a few more moments sand give things a good shake to release any further pee that may well be trapped in my clit and foreskin.  Give myself a good wipe and occasionally take a piece of toilet paper and fold it into a quarter and place in my knickers against the head of the cage to absorb any final droplets that my just follow on.  Job done!  Unfortunately not quite..... 

what would happen either as I started to move or even a few minutes later I would get a second release of wee.  Too much to be absorbed by my small pad of toilet paper and I would have to scuttle back to the toilet.  I started to call this my "retarded pee", it was almost like my compressed clit and the compression back into my body was causing the "pipes" to be compressed or restricted and to hold back some of the wee.

In the early days of wearing this smaller cage there was a couple of accidents and a bit of a wet patch appeared on my trousers.  Luckily on the most public occasion I had a spare pair of trousers in my travel bag in the car and I was able to go grab them and get changed.

You would thing with all of these problems I would have stopped wearing the cage?  The cage was the most comfortable that I'd had for long term wear and the pinching issue I did some research and chatted with others such a Poppet and kerri about their view on the problem.  A visit to the chastity forums revealed that this was not an uncommon problem and everyone agreed that I should look to get a larger base ring.  At this point I found out that the Cobra Chastity actually has 8 different ring sizes.  It appeared that I needed to get hold of a 54mm base ring.

This wasn't too easy.  I contacted the manufacturer in the US and they came back that yes they could sell me one and ship to the UK but they wanted to know where I had bought my cages and that they wanted photos of it as it was a copy as they and their one official seller had not sold it to me or Madam originally.  While the correspondence was friendly it was clear that they were not happy that my cage was a copy - both of my Cobra Chastity cages were from Amazon - I purchased the small via Amazon UK and Madam ordered the nub via Amazon Germany.  Also the cost of the base ring with international Shipping from the US was going to be significant.  I was going to place an order when I was contacted by a Chastity forum user from Europe that I regularly chat with who pointed out that there was a UK seller of chastity base rings that might be worth contacting.  So a quick look at the suggested seller's site on Etsy and there was what I needed a 55mm curved back ring.  I've put the link to Mr Keyholders site on Etsy below and also to the base ring that I ordered:

Mr Keyholder's Etsy Shop

Mr Keyholder's 55mm-extra-large base ring

The base ring arrived very quickly after ordering and there was very good communication from the seller (really recommend using him if you are looking for Chastity items). and with a few minor bits of work with a small file the base ring worked with both of my cobra cages and also all of my chastity locks.

The result was that this now has pretty much solved the pinching issue - I still get a the occasional bit of pinching and only rarely at night.  So a good solution.

Coming back to the problem with the Pee and the retarded or delayed release of pee.  the solution is this, I now carry the metal urethral tube with me at all times and when I go for a wee, I will use the tube to help position/ align my foreskin with the end hole of the chastity and then gently insert the tube into the end of my clit, to make sure that there is a clear pathway for my pee.  This has now reduced/ eliminated the delayed release of any pee.

I've also got into the routine that I wear the nub for all of the day and then swap to the small cage for sleeping in.  The reason for that is to allow the nub to "soak" in a small pot of soapy water and get rid of any wee residue and any smell, in the morning I swap the cages over and my small cage goes into the cleaning pot.  This system means that my sleeping routine is better and that I have a good cleaning regime for the cages.

While this does all seem like a real "faff" and a lot of hassle, it is just part of the process of getting used to long term wear of a particular cage.  I am finding that this model of cage is very comfortable for me to wear every day, in all circumstances and looking back at the other cages that I have worn long term their issues where different but they did have issues as I adjusted to wearing them on a regular or long term basis.  

Overall this chastity cage(s) has been no different, solving the problem of base ring just took time and research and the Pee issues have been probably due to the change down in size and learning how to adjust how I do my toilet visits.


So there you are, an update on my chastity cage adventure over the last 6 months or so.  Let me know what you think.

billie xxx  

05 May 2023

I'm Back! All is good again

 Good Evening Everyone,

My apologies for my absence, Unfortunately I've had to leave my good home life and our world of a safe and structured FLR to spend time being Mick and deal with a very personal family matter with my family.

I have been estranged from family for all of my Adult life, there has been times when they have tried to drag me back into the toxic pit that I quietly left so many years ago.

The last 2 weeks has seen me forced back into that world, the difference is that the Mick that went back into that world was considerably different from the young Mick that left it 40 years ago.  I'm not proud to say that for the last 2 weeks I have been an Emotionally Hard Evil Twat and not the person that I want my wife to know.  

I made a point of not going home to Alice, and I didn't want Alice to come to me.  I didn't want some of my family to have contact with wife, why? because some people in this world are just simply toxic and they get a kick out of trying to manipulate others, unfortunately they would have taken the opportunity to attack the special person in my life just to watch me hurt.  

Well, I played their game but to my rules and on Tuesday this week I walked away from them again but this time I walked away tall and proud rather than slinking away secretly.  It has taken me a few days to clear the anger out of my system.

I have been home for a couple of days know and this weekend is going to see me return to being the husband that my wife wants and needs.

I want to state this, Alice and John have been brilliant in supporting me, and very understanding of the creature that I have by necessity had to be so that I could deal with the problems at hand.

Also thanks to Kerri, Poppet and SaraE, I'm very grateful to you for your support and tolerance of an emotionally confused and angry individual.

So I'm back home but more important I am back to becoming billie.  This couple of weeks have made it really clear that the FLR is so important to my well being.  And all you crazy cats, with your Kinks and different takes on life are just the greatest of people and friends and it is so good to be back into this life.

My chastity is back on, I'm back wearing appropriate underwear and it feels good to be calling the personal that I love and worship "Madam" and "Ma'am".


I'm back were I want to be and all is good.

Thank you all

billie xxx

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