01 April 2020

Reaffirming the Rules and Boundries

From Madam Alice:


Yesterday all three of us were working from the house.  I was in the study, John has set up a small work area in our third bedroom and billie was down in her office.  It works and we are managing to keep things ticking over.

John came and saw me in the study, closed the door and sat down for a chat.  He was concerned about a few things and in particular about how things currently were with billie and how things would be while we were all together at home for a longer period that usual.

I listened to what he had to say and to be honest he was right, we needed to do a bit of resetting the rules and boundaries.

We sat down to dinner at 7pm, John and myself.  billie was in her maids uniform and had cooked an exceptional meal as usual, she served the meal and was about to leave back to the kitchen when I stopped her.

"where are you off to missy?"

"Back to the kitchen Madam, to allow you to eat in your own company"

"No dear, as the Maid, please take post behind my chair and to the side, as Mistress Carol taught you, and wait incase you are needed."  billie looked a little perplexed but moved quickly to her spot 2 steps back and to the right of me and waited with her feet together and hands crossed to her front.

we ate the meal and occasionally I motioned for her to top up our glasses, some wine for me and some squash for John (he tends not to drink wine during the week). once we finished John and I continued to chat and then the conversation came round to a topic dear to Billie's heart.

"Alice, I've noticed that billie is quite comfortable with her metal cage, and you've not used her punishment cage too much.  I think we are probably at a stage where we can reduce her cage down a size, a little shorter and perhaps a little tighter?"

"what do you have in mind for her John?"

We told her to step forward and John told her to lift her skirt and the underskirt. Once exposed I pulled her panties down and John pointed a few things out.



"If you look at it, it seems to be quite comfortable in that cage, it contains it quite well and she does seem to have accepted it very well for long term wear.  I would like to see her with something more constraining and also one that we can get her to wear the urethral tube more regularly.  I think she is getting a bit too complacent with the wearing of her chastity.  I've found one on line that I think will be suitable.  billie, you'd like a new chastity wouldn't you?"

The look of panic on Billie's face was an absolute picture.  she answered it the only way she could with a "Yes Sir, Thank You Sir."

John showed me the chastity on his phone and told me the details, 48mm long and 36mm internal diameter, certainly smaller than her current one, not drastically but certainly enough for billie to notice a difference.

double-barrel-chastity-device


Billie was told to leave her panties off and then to clear the table.  I told her to hand wash the dishes and once she was finish to report back to us in the lounge.

By the time that billie had finished the dishes and came back to us she found that both myself and John had striped off, I was in my underwear and John was naked.  the scene that billie found was John on the sofa and me kneeling between his legs providing him with a very good blowjob - even if I do say so myself!


John took immediate charge of things and while I slowed my pace on his very lovely cock, I kept a good ear on what was about to unfold.

" Come here sissy, come closer!"

"look at your wife, what is she doing?"

"Giving you oral sex Sir."

"No sissy she is giving me a blow job, does she give you a blow job?"

"No Sir"

"Does she give you oral sex?"

"No Sir"

"Why not sissy?"

"because I'm her cuckold Sir"

"Its because she doesn't want to, and she only has sex with a man, isn't it?"

"and what are you billie?"

"a submissive sissy cuckold Sir"

"You are that billie, but also you're not equipped to have sex with your wife are you?  Lift your skirt sissy show your wife what a small little clit you have."

I turned my head to look at billie as he lifted the front of his dress with his cage on display.

"Look Alice, look at the pathetic little clit of your husband, no wonder that you have me here to deal with your needs.  Your wife needs a Man to look after her physical needs doesn't she billie?"

billie was looking at the floor and I could see that he was very red, not with anger but humiliation.  but the thing that I noticed next was the end of billie's cage, there was a small drop of cum forming.  his small little clit had betrayed him, he wasn't being hurt by Johns words but they were turning the little tramp on!

John had placed a hand on the back of my head and indicated that start sucking him again, while he continued to emasculate my husband.

"Why are you caged billie?"

"because Madam likes me this way Sir"

"Not only that, sissy, it is one of MY REQUIREMENTS for you, there will only be one cock in this house and it will be mine, won't it?"

"Yes Sir, sorry Sir."

"You don't have a cock do you sissy?  it isn't big enough is it?"

"No Sir"

Your not a man are you sissy, why are you in a maids uniform?"

"No Sir, I'm dressed as a sissy because you require it Sir and it's so that I can serve both you and Madam as the cuckold Sir." 

I took a side glance and billie was now definitely leaking from his cage.

"Why am I here billie? Why am I in your home and in your marriage?"

".....because I cant satisfy my wife Sir"

"Good, you remembered, what would you like me to do with your wife, billie?"

" please Sir, would you please fuck my wife,  would you please take care of her needs?"

While this may sound cruel, this is what billie would have to ask John when he would come over on a Friday evening, we haven't done this ritual for several months where the Cuckold asks the Bull to do what he cant.

John had pointed it out that for the last couple of months we had almost settled into a threesome type of routine and he felt that billie needs to be brought back into focus.

As John put it, we had almost been ignoring Billie's need to be humiliated and emasculated, we hadn't been fully catering for her needs.  John had noticed that the last 2 weeks of billies work programme had dealt with some of her submissive needs but he felt it was time to really focus in on what she needed and I must admit judging by the string of cum leaking from her he was absolutely right!


"Well since you beg so nicely yes I will fuck your wife, right here, now take her place sucking me while she gets ready"


billie quicky knelt down and replaced me sucking John and I got up and removed my knickers. I watched a rather eager husband suck the cock of my boyfriend.  there wouldn't be a need for any oral on me as I was already suitably turned on and I straddled John, facing away from him  and told billie to stop sucking and let me get onto his cock.  I ease myself onto him and John told billie to keep licking him and me while we fucked.



for the next half an hour John thoroughly fucked me and verbally humiliated billie. We both came and I eased myself off the 9 inches of John, billie was told to clean johns cock first and then to lick me clean.



Once John was satisfied that billie had completed his tasks on us both he was dismissed to go and get a glass of wine for me and some sparkling water for John.  I caught a glimpse of my Husband face and it was a look of a rather happy and content sole, I was very please with him and more importantly glad to see that it looked like he had enjoyed himself, back in his proper role of our submissive sissy , but more importantly to me in his role as my wonderful submissive husband.

I do love him so much!






27 March 2020

I'm being rather naughty and billie is out helping John

From Madam Alice:


Just a very short update from here in the study.  I've been working from home for most of this week and it will probably be like this for the near future.  This morning I decided that I would have a dress down Friday.

So I have been driving John and billie quite mad by working just in my underwear, and I would say I've even pushed the limit on that.

A quarter/ open cup Bra
waspie
open crotch knickers
black seamed stockings
and my 5" stilettos (a 1" platform sole)

I have had a white satin blouse to hand if something comes in on the Skype but otherwise it has been quite liberating sat here working with a some what carefree attitude.

I do have to confess that I teased John a little bit too much this morning and ended up enjoying his lovely cock while leaning over my desk.  I had to summon billie to clean us both up once we were finished.  It was quite liberating being fucked without having to remove anything.

Billie has also had a dress down day, we've had her in full fem dress and she has gone with John to his Office to help with some work for John this afternoon.  His staff are all working from home but he needed to get some files off his work server for a few of his team to finish a project, and he had some paperwork for Ms Watson to do for him as his new temp during this new work regime.

I'm expecting her to come back shortly with John and to be slightly fuller than she left - she was plugged but John told her to take one of her large plugs with her in her handbag.  My guess is that Ms Watson will be at some point bent over the Boss's desk with her knickers around her ankles!  I must say after her 2 weeks forced abstinence she has been rather a wanton little tart.  I think that John will have her plugged just after he finished cumming in her.

I look forward to hearing how her afternoon has been.

So what is the plan for this evening, well when John and billie get back I want John to strip naked in the lounge, billie can give him a light fluffing and I intend to impale myself on his lovely cock, it isn't just billie that can be a wanton tart!!

Have a good weekend and look after yourselves.

24 March 2020

Training programme complete and back to the old routine

My two week training programme was brought to an end on Saturday afternoon, at about 3pm.  Thankfully I survived my way through it.

With Week One having me in full maid service it was very long days with Madam generally going to bed at about Midnight and wanting to be awoken with her tea at about 6.20am.  this normally meant in bed by 12.30am and that I was up at 5am (ish) to get ready, wash, clean myself inside and out, shower, dress and then prepare breakfast (depending on what Madam had stated the night before) then take her Tea up to her, with her tablet so that she can look at the newspapers online.

The hardest part of the day was actually limiting the online activity, and then getting into full work mode, we had hired a heavy duty carpet cleaner for the week so I have done all of the carpets in the house with it. all the rugs and all of the Curtains have been taken down (the heavy winter curtains cleaned and put away and the lighter summer curtains put up.  where we have blinds they were taken down and washed/ cleaned.  Over all the house had a full spring clean.

The one none maid related task had me in a set of coveralls (with lingerie underneath) doing some painting and maintenance on our gate.  Cleaning the metal work off, applying some hammerite paint and then getting into the motor to do some oiling and greasing.  Not particularly sissy tasks but something that needed doing - The gate was installed before we bought the place and it does need a twice yearly servicing but that is within my capabilities.  I just end up covered in paint and grease.

I have to say that the second week was the hardest.

The maths tests - I'm not bad at maths, that is a good thing for a Surveyor to be, however with the time constraints and the way the questions are written these tests aren't easy to complete in the time allotted, you need to learn a technique to deal with them and then use it.  Madam knew how to set the parameters to make these a real challenge and she set the Bar quite high for me, anything less that 90% in each test would be a punishable fail - punishments would be with the paddle and on a sliding scale depending on the score.

90 and above - pass
80 and above - 3 with the paddle
70 and above - 5 with the paddle
60 and above - 7 with the paddle
59 and below - fail, 12 with the paddle

The typing tests were the challenge, for these Madam made me add the heavy bra fillers that I have (knee highs filled with rice), and on Monday I had to complete 200 lines correctly at a minimum speed of 20 words per minute.  this then increased to 500 lines by Wednesday onward.  Not an easy test and punishments were at Madam's discretion but with the tawse.  Now added to this as a distraction I had Wednesday and Thursday as silence days with the gag.  That adds a whole new dimension to things.

so typing with a penis gag in place and a filled heavy bra means that you aren't in your normal work posture, with large breasts you suddenly become aware of the benefits of touch typing - which I really struggle with at the best of times any way.

so as a result I ended up with more punishments for the typing than the Maths.  As a general rule I was averaging 6-8 with the tawse across my backside a night and 3-5 with the paddle (apart from the first night where I got 12 with the paddle - I had scored above 60 but Madam expected better from me!)

In terms of no sexual contact with Madam or Sir, that was really difficult.  yes I know I'm caged and I should be used to be frustrated but consider this fact - since being caged and with Sir and Madam being together I have had a far more active sex life that I had had for many years previously.  so to be cut off from it but to still be surrounded by it, to see it (Madam made a point of spending the evening in just her lingerie with a satin robe, and Sir tended to be either naked or in a light dressing  gown.)  To be made to listen to Madam masturbating with her toys while in the corner of the room and then being told to collect the toys and go and clean them (with water rather than with my tongue) or to be present when Sir and Madam have sex, knowing that you will not be participating is incredibly frustrating and hence some very damp knickers.  Its amazing how I can start to self milk with the butt plug while stood in a corner listening to things.

so what now, well Madam is now working from Home and in the Study, I have to be careful when I bring her Tea, to make sure that she isn't on Webcam to her work, I'm not sure that she wants her sissy maid appearing on screen.

Sir has got all of his workers working from home, and he is splitting his time between his office and here. and I'm doing my maid work in the mornings, preparing lunch and then change and of to my office at the bottom of the garden.

everyone stay safe out there and  keep blogging and commenting.

billie xxx


17 March 2020

Billie will be quiet for a little while

From Madam Alice:

Dear Readers, billie hasn't posted for a little while as I have put her on a Social Media restriction.  Why?  has she been bad? Has she been disobedient?

The simple answer is no she hasn't.  I've instigated a 2 week programme with her which has placed a number of restrictions on her and by this Friday (?) I will see how she has done.

so this is what has been instigated:

Social media - no more that 30 min each day and that is to be used to answer any comments to blogs and to check blogs that she/ we follow, she may make comments as appropriate but not to go outside of the 30 minutes window.

Daily 10 pictures/gif etc - should be completed in less than 30 minutes including the write up on why I should find her selection interesting.

Sleeping arrangements will be in the maids room and wearing the black sleep suit with the open crotch tights.

light make up is to be worn daily but no wig.

Shopping will be done as normal on Fridays, but a white  female blouse must be worn rather than a white male shirt.

Week 1 (last week) - Maids week.
1.   billie will spend the whole week in maids uniform of one type or another.  uniform should be appropriate for the taskings.

2.    Mick's secretary should place an "out of office" notice for emails, billie will answer all work related emails briefly and should be in the office for less than 1 hour per day.  There are to be no Skype meetings, any work phone calls should be scheduled for the hour in the office and kept as brief as possible.

3.   The maid is to have no sexual contact with Madam or her boyfriend for the period of the 2 week programme, no oral to Madam or Sir and no anal activity from Madam or Sir.  However the Maid will wear her medium rubber butt plug at all times except for sleeping and when at the toilet or for her daily personal cleaning.

4.   The maid is not permitted to watch Sir and Madam engaging in sex.  if the maid is to be in the same room she is to go to her designated corner, face the wall and wait.  The maid will be told if she should leave the room, and wait outside, leaving the door open.

5.  The maid will be on call at all times and will not go to bed until Madam has gone to bed.  the Maid will wake Madam at the allotted time with her morning Tea.

6.  The maid will be given tasks each evening for the following day.  The week will be the spring clean for the house, particular attention to be given to Curtains, rugs and carpets.

Week 2 - Secretary Week (this week)

1.  Billie will spend the week dressed in secretarial attire from 8.30am to 8pm, all working times out side of this will be in be in the French Maids uniform.  Sleeping dress will be as stated above, the black sleep suit.

2.  All maid tasks are to be completed by 8.30 am each day.

3.  Social media and internet tasks must be complete by 10am.

4.  The secretary will be set a daily typing test to be completed.  Madam will set the task parameters prior to going to work each day.

http://www.brassiered.com/sissytypingtest/index.html

the results are to be sent to Madam's personal email.

5.  The secretary is to carry out a Maths test each afternoon, Madam will inform the secretary is she is to carry out 4 x 15minute test of 60 questions of the simple tests or 1 x 60 minute of 30 punishing problems.  The results are to be email to Madam,
http://www.brassiered.com/sissymathematicstest/index.html

6.  Shortfalls in tasks 4 and 5 will result in a punishment given at 8pm daily.

7.  The secretary will have 2 days of silence during the week.  the days will be given at random by Madam.  this will result in the billie wearing the penis gag from the start of the day - after washing and dressing at the start of the day through to the end of day when going to bed.  The gag is to be worn for 25 minutes at a time, removed for 5 minutes and then replaced.  The gag may be removed for eating meals but billie must text Madam for permission for her lunch meal to be taken and must text Madam when she had completed her meal and the gag is back in place


8.  Rule 3,4 and 5 of maid week are applicable to this week.

At the moment billie is about 2/3 of the way through her programme and doing well, if somewhat frustrated and her ability on the typing and maths tests have resulted in a few punishments last night, we have a few more punishments this evening for her shortfalls today, but they are less than yesterday.  hopefully we will see progressive improvements by Friday.

billie's frustrations is quite a turn on for me, she is clearly missing her contact with me and John and judging from the dampness and leakage in her panties she is probably looking forward to the end of the programme at the end of this week - will it be Friday evening  or will it be Sunday Evening?  we will see!


09 March 2020

Punishment for billie, for being too good

From Madam Alice.

On Thursday I went to work as normal, all was well, my maid husband woke me as normal and helped prepare me for work.  laid out on the bed when I came out of the shower was instead of my expected lingerie a new set of Bra, knickers and a girdle .

"What's this billie?"

billie explained that he hoped that I liked them, he had gone and got them on the way back from his work trip out at Sheffield the previous day. He had detoured into Nottingham and pick up the items from Revival Lingerie.

He had obviously read the review post and had overheard a phone call that I'd had with my friend Bev last week, which was a "check in" after being at her Birthday night out.  Bev had been talking about how she had been wearing the Bra to work and doing quite a bit of raving about it.  Clearly my eaves dropping maid husband had picked up on it.

Here I was presented with a new set of lingerie, as a present, for no reason.

I demanded to know why he had bought the underwear, and he sheepishly stated that, as a my husband could he not just surprise me with a gift out of the blue?

 Well I tore a strip from him and sent him off to deal with his chores.  I must admit I was rather mean to him, the underwear was lovely and the surprise gift even more so, he is a very thoughtful man, but I didn't want him to think that he could win me over with a surprise gift.

I got dressed and stomped down the stairs to a rather sheepish husband maid.  I told him that we would chat about his gift this evening at the weekly review.

I did wear the lingerie to work and I must say my friend wasn't lying about the bra, it's lovely!.

That evening I had added "unsolicited gift given in an effort to curry favour with Madam, 10 strokes, paddle" to the weekly review ledger.  I made billie squirm after reading the point out and asking him to explain his reasoning.

He looked down at the floor and stated that he knew that I had like the items from my visit to Bev's and that I had expressed an interest in getting some lingerie, so he thought that he would treat me.  He blurted out that he wasn't trying to influence me or to win favour.

I put him over the back of his chair and applied his punishment, which he took like a good boy and told him to stand up and face me.

 I put the paddle down and then hugged him very closely and gave him perhaps a little too passionate kiss for someone that is in chastity and thanked him for the very lovely gift. he was told that he could always provide me with surprise gifts but not to be too excessive with them and perhaps don't surprise me with them on the bed to wear immediately - thank god they were comfortable!

I am very lucky to have such a thoughtful husband but I clearly need to keep him on his toes!

03 March 2020

Orgasms? When to reset the counter?

On Sunday evening myself and Madam were having a chat over things, Sir had just gone home and we were sharing the last of a bottle of red wine.  The topic came to the fact that I've now done over 60 days in chastity.

The conversation started with have I actually done 60 days in chastity and we agreed that yes I had.  The chastity cage comes of once a week to clean the cage and for me to clean myself and to shave, we have this down to 20 minutes and it is always supervised.  I am never left unattended so there is no chance of a quick wank.  added to which once I've been in chastity for a couple of weeks it takes time to wake "the little fella" up.  it doesn't just spring to life.  with all of that we are content other than this very short period of maintenance we are full time caged.

So the next question is how long since my last orgasm?  now this can be more subjective.  For Madam's criteria - and that is all that matters for me - for my orgasm to count I must be out of chastity and it is either from "normal" (??!!??) masturbation or from oral sex or penetrative sex.

what doesn't count is where I drip my cum while caged.
where I cum from being milked/ prostate massaged.
where a vibrator is applied to my cage or balls etc and I leak/ cum
where I have an anal orgasm and cum/ leak from penetration

From Madam's point of view all of the above things are encouraged by her, so long as they occur while I'm caged.  She wants me to have a very active sex life and to enjoy it but she wants me to be submissive and controlled.  As she put it I can have as many caged orgasms as I want but it won't be through the direct stimulation of my penis clit.

As she puts it there is a difference between cumming and Orgasming, and as a submissive sissy cuckold she enjoys me having sissy orgasms and cumming as a sissy as it means that I stay attuned to being submissive and sexually responsive where as if I had orgasms un caged I would be likely to switch off.

With all of that in mind I have cum, several times as a sissy in the last 60 odd days but I've not sustained a male orgasm in that time.  And as Madam pointed out it is likely to be quite some time before my orgasm and chastity counter are reset back to zero.

02 March 2020

A recommendation from a Friend - Revival Lingerie

From Madam Alice:



I pointed out to Mick/billie that I hadn't posted something for a little while and I was trying to think of something to post about.  there were several things that popped up and so I know have a list of topics to look at over the next few weeks.

However, something that did come up on Friday was a recommendation from a friend about a lingerie company and some of their products.

I have a friend who I worked with back in the late 80's, having left school and managing to get a job in the Administration Office of a company in Leicester, this is a sub division of the company that I still work for.  However when I started I found that I wasn't the only new girl to start, Beverley was a couple of years older than me and had been doing some part time work and college classes since leaving school when she was taken on at the same time as I was.  As the new girls we quickly found that we were at the bottom of the office pile and quickly became firm friends to hold our own against some of the blokes in the office and also to defend against the battle-axes of sour faced old secretaries that had been with the company for years.

We would go out at the weekends and it was Bev that got me into wearing Stockings and Suspenders for work and for "play" and I have to be honest it's all her fault that I love wearing them!




Last Friday was a party for Bev's 50th, it was a couple of weeks after her actual birthday, but the plan was to have a bit of a party and a girls night out near to where she lives in North west Leicestershire.

I had spoken to Mick and the plan was that I would drive up, change at Bev's and go to the party with her and then drive over to Mum's in Leicester before coming back home on Saturday morning.

Mick told me that wasn't a plan and it would mean that I wouldn't be able to let my hair down and enjoy the night out with my friend.  So Mick offered to drive me up, drop me off and collect me and drive me back, he even managed to get a good deal on a room at a local Premier Inn.  As he put it what is the point of having a submissive husband if you aren't going to task him to look after his Mistress Wife's needs.  He did have a point!

So I was collected from work and taken north via the hassle of Friday on the M1 up to Junction 22 and then of to the hotel.  A shower and my submissive husband had laid out my clothes and underwear - the retro lingerie that John and Mick/ billie had bought for my valentines, along with a set of very sheer black stockings.  With a blue dress and a set of 4" heels I was ready to go on the town with my old best friend.  But, it wasn't going to be into town on the pull, it was going to be a collection of middle aged women out for a meal and to put a dent into the restaurant's wine and gin stock!

Mick dropped me off at Bev's house and I was met by her husband. As usual Bev wasn't ready, she never is when it comes to these things.  I shouted that I had arrived and Bev shouted for me to come up to her room and chat while she got ready, this was just like old times going to her room while she flited about getting dressed and putting on make up! while chatting about what we've been upto.

Well I was greeted by Bev in her underwear, and wow what underwear!  it was almost identical to what I was wearing, the only difference was that while I had on a 6 strap suspender belt she had on a lace waist clincher.  she had gone a bit more classy with her stockings, going for fully fashioned.



I told her that we were almost matching in underwear and after a big hug she demanded to see, so it was a quick squiggle out of my dress and we stood there admiring each other's knickers, bra and stocking sets!  now this isn't something unusual and used to be quite common when we were going out in our early twenties.  I'd often turn up in an outfit at Bev's house, see what she was wearing and she'd see what I had and we'd decide that the other had something that we'd prefer to wear or would suit us better.  No swapping this time but we definitely had very similar tastes in our underwear (or our men had similar tastes in our underwear!).

Bev's husband had ordered her some underwear for her Birthday and unfortunately what arrived wasn't what they wanted - wrong item, wrong colour and wrong size! not good, however to fix the problem the order was sent back and cancelled and he found a company in Nottingham that did retro lingerie which is what Bev was after - she and her husband attend 40 and 50's events, so the underwear needs to be appropriate (apparently).  So with her husband working up in Nottingham on that day he gave them a call to see what they had and if he could collect the items.  they are a manufacturer and online company but from what Bev said you can collect from them directly.

The Bra that she had was made up that morning and when her husband got there and was chatting to the lady that makes the items he mentioned that he had ordered a waist clincher/ waspie for his wife from the other company but it was the wrong size and colour the lady pointed out that they make Clinchers they just weren't up on the website yet.

so he ended up coming home with a set of underwear that was made locally to them, and at what they both said was very good price.

so what's the jist with this - I like stories like this, a local company producing good quality products and I have to admit these looked fantastic and Bev was already planning her next set of purchases from them.  I told Mick/ billie that if he is a good submissive sissy I may get him some new lingerie from the company and I now have my eye on perhaps one of their Corselettes for myself.

so here is my efforts to help support local(ish) companies, this is the link to the company, its called Revival Lingerie. and their products:

 https://www.revivallingerie.co.uk/

The Bra that Bev had is:

https://www.revivallingerie.co.uk/product/008-non-wired-lightly-padded-satin-cup-bra-with-contrasting-trim/



The Knickers are

https://www.revivallingerie.co.uk/product/067-italian-boselli-stretch-satin-full-brief/



The waist clincher still doesn't appear on the web page but it may be worth asking them on the phone or by email if they have them.

Go and have a look at their website and products, having see what Bev was wearing it was good quality and looked lovely.  I'm already planning on putting in an order.

 and this is what I have my eye on for myself:

https://www.revivallingerie.co.uk/product/015-criss-cross-support-open-bottom-corselette/


The question to you dear reader, what ensemble should I get for my dear sissy husband and do I make him go and get it in person?  what do you think?



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