So much has been going on

 Afternoon to everyone, over the last few weeks I've been trying to get blog posts done but never got them finished before time and events have taken over. So my aim is to try and bring all of the bit posts into one and bring everyone upto date.

Madame and Sir are away this weekend, I've stayed at home so that I can catch up with things domestically and also in work terms.  but more on that later in the post.

From Mid September - 

Almost 2 weeks ago we received a phone call from Ellie asking if we would be free for the coming weekend, it appeared that David's parents were going to visit the young couple on their way back from their Holiday in the North of England.

While we had some plans they were were not that important and the decision was made to go to Leicester and meet the parents.

We had always said that we would not meet them until Ellie's mother and father had met them and that had happened early in the summer.  Having made the decision on the Monday that we would go there was follow up phone calls to get the plan for the weekend.  

The outline was that they would be arriving early Friday Evening and Ellie wanted to have that as an evening with just Ellie and David with his parents (it would be their first visit to their house, so we supposed that the aim would be to make a good impression on the future "in-laws").  Ellie wanted us to come over late Saturday Afternoon and stay into the evening, this would be just us, the Young Couple and the Parents.

We were a little concerned that this might be a bit long (just incase we and/or they don't get on and it may become a bit awkward.) but Ellie was most insistent. So we agreed as this is Ellie's moment.

The sunday would be a bit more of an open event with a lunch/ buffet/ BBQ being laid on (subject to the weather) for friends and wider family.

The final part of the call got both myself and Alice looking at each other "Oh Can you make sure that you pretend to be normal!"

The response from me was "What are you implying with that comment Young Lady!?" the answer was just a giggle from the other end and "you know, just be normal".

well I get the feeling that since we have allowed Ellie to look into the "pandora box" of our world her view of us is forever changed!

How difficult can it be to define 'Normal'?

Nevermind, as it is we can do a very convincing normal - what ever that is meant to mean.

The rest of the week was busy for Alice at work and I found myself on the road a lot, I had booked accommodation for us over the weekend as we are still not staying with Alice's sister as that is still just a little too uncomfortable.

The Friday evening saw us travel up late and we arrived at the hotel (nothing fancy - functional was the order of the day) and went for some food and simply just had a very relaxed evening with our own company.  Saturday morning saw us dodging showers to try and do a walk in some nearby woods that we used to walk when we were "Courting" each other, so many years ago.  Coming back to the accommodation we had a light pub lunch and then headed back to the room to get changed before heading to Ellie and David's house.

Now the thing to bear in mind is that for both of us our vanilla personas are such that we do have a fashion style that does on occasion make us stand out and our niece may not have realised that while she is used to it, it might cause a second look by david's parents....

So for me it is straightforward - relaxed fit chino type trousers (comfort while caged is very important), waist coat and a light weight tweed Jacket.

Alice was taking a look that was some what "vintage" or retro with long line bra, deep 6 strap suspender belt, tan fully fashioned stockings, creme satin blouse and a pleated knee length skirt.  A pair of 3" heels finished the outfit to perfection.  It also helped that she had styled her hair in a slightly retro fashion as well.  I have to confess she looked bloody stunning and it was most definitely her type of style!

Arriving at the house was interesting, we were meet at the door by David and he looked a little stunned with Alice and I had to quietly say to him to close his mouth and stop staring at Alice.  I also whispered to him that yes they were stockings that she was wearing! as that seemed to be his focus as she walked into the house. Clearly the lad has the same weakness for stockings as I have.

Ellie greated us really warmly and I got a full hug from her and I could tell she was doing a check to see what I was wearing, I had to admonish her and told her to behave!

We were walked through to the living room and were introduced to David's parents. While I initially thought that we might be a little over dressed it looked like we were just fine.

The introductions were easily made and now with drinks in hand we were able to sit down and chat.  The plan was to have dinner early in the evening and just see how it went. The conversation was fairly straight forward and the kind of things that you would expect - what do you do, where do you live, etc.  they seemed interested in the fact that we had been surrogate parents to Ellie and her sister for a period of time.  I think this was them trying to understand the dynamic why this Aunt and Uncle were such an important factor in young Ellie's life and Relationship.

Things got better when we all got up to help set the table for dinner and help with the meal - even if ellie and david didn't want the help.

During a conversation with David's father he commented that he could see where Ellie got her dress style from.  I asked him what he meant and he pointed out that Ellie's style seemed to follow a pattern similar to Alice's.  He pointed out that he had never seen her not wearing a skirt and tights, even when she was fully made up in Goth mode.  I had to laugh and told him that yes that did probably come from Alice but I did point out that that if he wanted see them in trousers then he would probably have to see them when they went horse riding!  I'm not sure if he could cope with the thought of seeing Alice and Ellie in Jodphurs, Riding boots and Riding Crops, the poor lad might have a heart attack!

the chat for the evening was fairly straightforward and easy going, the one thing that did come up was david's mother was quite keen to have them married sooner rather that later, but it was good to see David cut in and make it clear that they would have the wedding once they had everything save up and paid for, also he made it very clear that the wedding would be paid for my him and Ellie, so that no one from either side of the families could take credit or influence the marriage.   I liked the fact that the lad was standing his ground and it was clear that his parents were trying to get us to influence the young couple. - No, we fully supported the pair and we also agreed with them that if they wanted to keep it a small wedding that was good with us as well.

That was about the only contensciencous part of the meeting and evening.

A few days later I had a phone call from david and he thank me (and Alice) for the weekend and meeting with his Mum and Dad. However he did mention that his mother mentioned when Ellie wasn't about that she thought that we had both dressed ready to go to the wedding, he had a bit of a laugh when he told his mother that this wasn't Alice "dressed up" this was just Alice being "Normal".  David mentioned that he thinks his mother may need to up her game so that she isn't out done on the day!

We've mentioned it before but Alice has no intention of turning up dressed like the Mother of the Bride but she certainly will be looking "Classy!", I suspect retro shape wear, Fully Fashioned Stockings and stilettos that would peirce a foot if anyone gets in her way!

From 2 weeks ago -

 I've found myself in a spot of bother this week and I have incurred the wraith of Madam.

On Friday I got home after another week of travelling back and forth to my current project.  I'd made a point of booking a room at a local B&B for Tuesday and Wednesday night as I wanted to get a break from the traveling back and forth as the motorways are a bloody nightmare at the moment and I'm almost spending more time on the road than I am at the project.  On Thursday I arrived home later than I had hoped and Madam had gone to bed due to her having an early start, so not wanting to disturb her I slept in my room.

Friday morning actually saw me being up and going out the door just as Madam was getting up. It dawned on me that I hadn't seen Alice since bringing her her morning coffee on Tuesday morning, so I quickly dashed upstairs to say good morning and to tell her that I love her and that I would see her when I got back.

It was a quick dash in and out but she stop me in my tracks, "Are you alright?", "Yes just a bit of a cold, but nothing drastic."  and with that I was off and on the road!

That evening I got back and found that Alice wasn't waiting for me but Madam.

"You lied to me this morning! Didn't You?"

Well I couldn't bluff it.  No I wasn't well.  I'd spent 2 days on the project site sorting out a bit of a "clusterfuck" and as a result I had been soaked to the skin.  spending most of the day outside and with limited kit meant that I was wet through.  That evening a quick visit to a local big supermarket I got a cheap sweatshirt, Tee shirt and a pair of jogging bottoms, so that I could get out of my clothes and hope that they would dry for the morning.  while they were a good bit drier, they were still damp.

Long story short, I now had a cold/ flu and probably not helped with the lack of sleep and travelling back and forth.

So Madam was some what pissed off with me, for not looking after myself.  I was ordered to strip right where I was in the living room, totally naked and Madam ordered me to my knees and to bend over and to kiss her shoes and apologise for lying to her.

As I bend over to kiss her shoe She took her riding crop from behind her back and whipped me on the arse, down on one of my buttocks.

I was now told to kiss the other shoe and apologise once more.  Again as I did so The crop came down on my other buttock.  

I could tell that Madam was really pissed off with me, there was no warm up, no preparation, these were 2 very hard and stinging cracks with the crop! 

I was ordered to stand up and with that Madam took hold of my ear  and then directed me up stairs to her bathroom.  "Get in the shower, don't you dare come out until I say that you can!"

Madam turn on the shower and adjusted the temperature and I was told to get in and get washed  and to stay until called.  Still slightly stunned I got in and gave myself a good wash and soaked with the shower.  Some time later I was called out of the shower and handed a large bath towel to dry off with.  Once dry I was directed into the bedroom and on the bed some clothes had been laid out.

There was a pair of black tights and my red sleep suit, next to it was my pink pyjamas.  I was told to get dressed all under the stern scowl of Madam.  I quickly dressed and put on the Satin Pyjama trousers and then the jacket.  I was then ordered into Bed.

As I got into the bed it was clear to me that Madam had changed the quilt from the Summer Quilt to the heavier winter quilt.  Once I was in bed and Madam was content, she laid out the rules to me.

"You will stay in the bed until I say otherwise, you can go to the toilet and back into bed, no further.  I will bring you your food and drinks. Do you understand?"

"Yes Madam."

once I had said that she sat down on the bed and my stern Mistress had gone. "I swear to god Mick, I'd bloody kill you for your bloody minded determination at times, if you weren't trying to kill yourself on your own!"

"Sorry!", well it was all I could say really.  she had a point, it wasn't the first time I'm become ill from stepping into projects to get them fixed.  I wasn't too bad this time but Madam wasn't pleased with me and that is a situation far worse than any discomfort or illness could cause me.

Alice was concerned that I was ill with not just the soaking that I had sustained but also being worn down with the travelling and the reduced sleep all added with the other background health issues that I have going on so I totally get why she was pissed at me.

So the result was that I was confined to bed for the next 4 days. meals were brought to me as well as regular black tea with honey and lemon.  No TV or laptop.  She allowed me to have my phone on the sunday to check emails but other than that it was sleeping and reading books.  I had a visit from John who also too time to call me an idiot, but in reality he spent an hour with me chatting and catching up with what I had been upto.

On the Monday I was under orders to stay in bed (I could go to the kitchen for my meals) but had to contact the Project team and let them know that I was not going to be available for the day and that I would be working from home for the rest of the week.  Not Ideal but I was not prepared to incur Alice's wrath again!  so orders were orders.

To be honest I needed it as I didn't realise how run down I actually was.  I also managed to "avoid detection" by Alice mainly due to my early departures and late returns.

However Madam is watching me like a hawk now! 

Present time - End of Oct

Well I've recovered, or as healthy as I can be at the moment.  I've been working from home more often now and hopefully that will continue.  We've been invited to visit some old friends (vanilla life) in the coming weeks and I'm hoping to get in touch with them to make arrangements so that will be good to have a bit of a break.

We have started to get back into our normal routine, I had my backside thrashed last Thursday as there was quite a few misdemeanors to catch up with on my review, hopefully we can start to get more settled  going forward.  Also I hope that this will mean that I can get back into a regular habit of posting to the blog.

so with that I will finish here and get on with the last of my chores before Sir and Madam get back.

Take care of yourselves!

Ups and downs...flashes and bangs!

This isn't the originally planned blog post that I had hoped to post this week but I thought that I needed to get something out this weekend before the start of the working week.

I started a post last weekend about the trip that we had upto leicester to meet Young David's parents -  a very nice couple by the way - however the plan to finish that post over a couple of evenings this past week didn't come about as I've been arriving back home quite late on most evenings. I will get it finished but it still needs some work as neither Madam or I are happy with the way it reads at the moment.

Madam has also had a week of traveling with work and as we came to this weekend it has been a case of literally just catching our breath.

We've had John over as well and it's been more of a just a case of relaxing for all of us.  The one thing that did change was that Madam decided on Friday night that she would change my chastity cage from the small plastic/resin to one of my small all metal one's. 

Now I haven't worn one of my metal cages for a while and the one thing that I noticed that the difference in weight is significant.  So much so that it has been essential to wear the elasticated waist strap.  I was especially glad of it when Madam decided to use her strap-on on me on Friday evening, the waist strap helped to cut down the bounce and stopped the cage from pulling away from me.

Yesterday saw us all going out for a lunch, including me, and after so long in a plastic/resin chastity it was noticeable the difference in weight in my knickers.  It is simply the case that I've become so used to the minimal weight of my normal pink cage.  The lesson from yesterday was that while comfortable trousers are key when in chastity, good supportive knickers are also key when wearing a metal cage!  So many lessons that I had forgotten!

Saturday night, continued as a relaxed evening with all 3 of us just having a slow evening together, just occasionally playing and teasing each other and basically unwinding.  Yes I did remain submissive to both Sir and Madam all evening but it wasn't very much is a formal way.  I think that the way we have all been busy has meant that we just needed time to catch our breath.  That was very much the case as I also ensured that both Sir and Madam were orally served before the evening was done.

This morning, found me in Shapewear of a corselette and stockings with no knickers but heels making breakfast for everyone. Initially I was wearing a satin dressing gown but both Sir and madam kept touching me up as I moved about the kitchen and dining table so much so that I was told just to take the dressing gown off!

Sir headed off after breakfast as he had to meet up with one of his daughters at lunch time.  I was about to go and get dressed when Madam told me to stay as I was and just get on with my jobs in my Shapewear.

Now one of the things that has come about with my weight loss over the last few months is that some of that weight loss has come off my thighs, what that means is that quite a few of my hold up stockings no longer "Hold up".  so they have migrated to my normal stocking drawer, they don't work well with most of my suspender belts but they do work with the metal suspender clips of my shapewear.  I think I'm now at the stage that I need to consider going down from Large size stockings to Mediums.  You could say that it is a benefit of the weight loss but it does mean that the spare hold ups that I have still in the wrappers probably won't be usable the way that they had been bought.  Nevermind! they seem to be ideal to wear with girdles, waist clinchers and corselettes.  

One of the tasks this morning was catching up with the washing and Ironing, too many days on the road travelling means that there was too much of both and particularly as Madam has to look smart as part of her moving up with her promotion, so there are quite a few blouses and skirts to get pressed.

With that I was told to do the ironing in the dining room, Madam wanted to watch me do my chores while she was in the lounge and also so that she could chat with me.  

I set up the small Ironing board that we have on the table and plugged in the Iron.  At that point there was a flash (and it wasn't just my bum!) and I will be honest I almost had a heart attack!  The Iron decided to trip the bloody electrics! It also made Alice squeal, I'm not sure why, she wasn't plugging the bloody thing in!

On investigation my Iron, that I've had for a few years had finally given up the ghost, probably due to the fact that it needed to be used with an adapter, having bought it one of my work trips while abroad.  Having checked that I was alright, which I was, and that Alice was alright I went to check the electrics, no damage done other than one dead domestic appliance and it was a case of simply resetting the circuit, once the offending item was removed from the socket.

Alice then started to laugh to herself and I asked what was funny, to which she pointed out that if I had been electrocuted should she make efforts to remove my sissy clothes before the ambulance arrives or should she just leave me that way for them to see me as her submissive crossdressing husband?

My response what that I hoped she would at least do first aid before considering any of those matters!

But she has a point...... I know that Poppet subslut is always trying to encourage my exposure I'm just not sure an accident is the best way to achieve that!😂😂😂  thankfully we were all fine.  The only issue caused was that I had to go out just after lunch and get a new iron this time with a proper plug and Madam now has all the ironed clothes that she needs for the coming week.

Such are the trials of a chastised domestic submissive!  So to everyone have a good and safe week, particularly when doing your domestic chores!

When your Dom has doubts and a loss of confidence

Apologies for the long delay in posting unfortunately the vanilla world has been a big focus for us in the last 6 weeks.  All 3 of us have had things that filled our calendars and in some respects it has meant that who ever has had the most stable calendar to be the lead in the Household.

For myself I've had a lot of time on the road traveling with work but it has been fairly stress free other than regularly being stuck in traffic jams.

Sir has had 2 activities which have occupied his time one has been spending time with one of his daughters and also being heavily involved with a contract that his company has.  

However the main issue has been with Madam,  with changes at her work she was has been asked to step up into a lead role for her team as a temporary measure, while she has done this several times before it has often been for specific projects or tasks, however this time was classed as the designated lead for the team as a whole.  At the same time she was informed that she was being considered for a permanent promotion.  Madam was quite rightly incredibly pleased to be selected  to go forward for the promotion as the company she works for have a very good internal development programme, but there is a very rigorous selection process to go through.

This process has required Madam to spend time preparing for the different parts of the selection process, interviews at different levels, an in-house exam and also a couple of days doing problem solving and team work exercises.  All of which I get as some of the candidates may get a position that will come with a funded MSc or MBA, so the company wants to know what they are getting.

The problem for Madam started after her initial chat/ interview where she started to have some doubts about her suitability and ability for the jobs/ promotion.  I initially thought that this was down to her being probably one of the older candidates but that wasn't the case.

What was bothering her was the fact that she had started her career as an Admin Assistant.  It seemed that it was a case of imposter syndrome.

I had to sit her down and we had to have a "Mick and Alice" discussion and it did start with "Alice! bloody sit down and listen..."

Over the years I have watched my wife develop, to change and become the wonderful person that she is and that I love.  Her loss of confidence with this opportunity was also transfering into our homelife so it was a case of getting her to recognise that this was well within her capabilities and the thing that she had in bucket loads was life and work experience, with a right skills and competence for this.  I had to remind her that while she may have been an admin assistant at the start but she was now a Project manager and Team leader working on some fairly impressive jobs over the years, all with steady progression and recognition.  This opportunity was just the next step in the process.

I told her that I would help get back upto speed with Project management training (whats the point in being married to someone who teaches the topic if you can't take advantage of it) so that she would be just fine for those elements of the exams.

Both myself and John noticed that her worries were carrying over into our FLR, so as her submissive I viewed it as my job to support her and to make sure that her confidence remained where it should and if needs bolster it.

 We didn't do too bad a job, and it is one of the reasons that I was travelling back and forth with work rather than a more sensible overnight stays.  I wanted to make sure that I was there to support Alice each evening and also to make sure that Madam had her submissive on hand should she need it.  

Our FLR routine became key with all of this, things like the Thursday Evening review were really important as it helped to ensure that Madam had stability and had to stay focused for any of my "mistakes" during the week.

Routine isn't just about giving structure to the submissive, it has a function for the Dominant as well. It also had the purpose of providing a good distraction from what was going on at work and bringing Alice back into being Madam and having the focus and confidence of being the Lead in our FLR.

It worked, admittedly with a little manipulation from me.  You could accuse me of doing a little bit of "Topping from the Bottom"  but it was all for the purpose of making sure that Alice kept her confidence. 

Has Alice been successful ?- Yes.  she was offered a promotion and she has accepted. She has a bit of time to prepare and learn the ropes ready to step up into the new job, so all is good.

So this weekend has been totally about Madam and billie spending some quality FLR time together.  Madam was back in full "swing" and my bottom has been thoroughly used by her, to the point that I need an extra cushion while I work at the computer.

To everyone, thank you for your patience with us, we are hopefully going to get back into a more steady routine with things and back into regular posts.

Take Care

Madam and her submissive.

 

Stockings, Showgirls and Coveralls

Hello everyone, it's been a while but the vanilla world has been keeping all of us very preoccupied.

I must apologise to everyone with blogs that we normally regularly visit and comment on as we have been very poor with keeping up with everyone.  Yes we should all be spanked, but that probably wouldn't be considered a punishment for some of us....

So what has been happening for us, well things have settled down a bit with Madam's family and as previously mentioned we made a point of not meeting Ellie's future in-laws, we wanted Ellie's parents to do that first.  That has now happened and from all accounts went well.  We will hopefully meet David's parents in August.  That will be a very Vanilla weekend, the last thing we need is to cause any family issues from that direction! 

On my side of things work while not busy, it is time consuming as I am spending a lot of time on the road traveling to project meetings and being stuck in slow traffic.  It is does leave me rather knackered at the end of each day!

The other aspect is that I've had to spend a lot of time bidding for work for the back end of this year and into next year.  It takes time but it needs to be done so that I can keep Madam in the lifestyle that she demands.....those stockings and heels don't buy themself!

There has been slight changes with Madam's work, as she has been given a temporary promotion to the head of her project team.  This has given her additional responsibilities but she seems to be enjoying it.  She has been told that she is actually in the running for a formal promotion and is being considered for 2 potentials jobs if she is successful.  Madam is convinced that they have promoted her in her team to assess her, but my view is that her team needed a lead and she was the most suitable and that she should use this as a learning and development opportunity.  However the down side of this is that Madam has convinced herself that she needs to brush up on her Project management knowledge,  If only she knew some one who could do some Project Management revision with her......Yeh, that might be me then.

Here is the dilemma that I have, formally teaching your wife is bad enough, but the fact that she is also your Mistress and every Thursday she spanks/ punish you, it adds another level of pressure to delivering good quality training.    

To provide a break and diversion from Madam's focus on her work and what the future might hold, 2 weeks ago I decided to take her for a treat.  Madam loves going to the Theatre so I managed to get some tickets for a Saturday Matinee of Moulin Rouge.  So John gave us a life to the train station and a short trip into London with a brief stop to grab a Sandwich before getting to the Theatre near Piccadilly ready for the show, while our seats were up in the Gods there was no trouble with the view.

Now I don't mind the theatre, and while musicals are not my particular thing, I have to say that I really enjoyed the show.  But more importantly was the fact that Madam was really getting into it.

The added bonus was that the cast spent most of show in corsets and stockings.  Madam spent a large part of the show rubbing my thighs and feeling the straps of my suspenders under my trousers.  I really enjoyed the show but it wasn't comfortable being turned on by all of the stocking clad cast and a rather excited wife rubbing your leg and occasionally the inside of my thigh.  Madam also made the comment that I had very similar frilly knickers as some of the cast and if she had thought about it she would have made me wear them!

I can assure everyone my chastity was very uncomfortable!! 

I'm also glad that I didn't put my khaki slacks on as they would probably have had a a visible damp spot!

I would say that our trip to London and the Theatre was a complete success, Madam was completely distracted by it all and although it was just a short visit it did help her to unwind for the weekend.  So Job Done!

However it was not job done for me.  On the following day we discovered that at some point a few roof tiles had moved on the house and had been letting water in, so I spent the sunday in a set of old coveralls in the rain up on the roof with the plan to reset the tiles only to find that there was a hole batch of them that were loose/ not properly fixed.  The previous owner strikes again! nevermind I did a quick fix after assessing the extent of the problem and how much water had got in and then worked out what tools and materials I would need for a full repair.  So for the last weekend and the last few days with the good weather that we have had has found me back up the ladder and with a tower scaffold working on doing the full repair to the roof.

I'd like to say that I was properly attired for the job but it was more a case of dressing for the weather with a scruffy T-shirt and set of shorts.

Thankfully the house is now wind and weather tight again, and I'm trying to recover from shifting and laying roof tiles like I did as a 17 year old labourer but then after the job being reminded by my body that I'm nearly 60 and and that I need to bloody behave! 

There, that is quick summary of where we have been and what we've been upto over the last few weeks.  Madam should get word of the selection process for the jobs that she is being considered for in the next few weeks and I suspect that they will want to try and do the interviews before August so we will just have to wait and see - fingers crossed!  

Its been a Mad few weeks

 Evening everyone, well we are still alive and currently we haven't done too much harm to anyone, despite what some people have tried doing.....

As a couple we have taken the last two weekends to just relax and try and recharge batteries.  I have been busy with my work but the frustration has been with travelling to and from meetings, the M1 motorway has just been a bloody nightmare and to be honest my client is paying more for my travel time than they are for my time in the meetings, but they want the face to face meeting so.....

Madam on the other hand is currently a bit stressed with work and also with her family.  Currently her team is short staffed and just to add some pressure she has been told that she is being viewed for a potential promotion.  Under normal circumstances she would be all over the promotion but she is being pulled in several directions.

I had to go and chat with our Ellie and David, mainly to lay the law down a little, don't panic it wasn't a bad thing.  Ellie had made arrangements for us to meet David's parents , which was great and we really do want to meet them but we found out that the plan was for us to meet his parents before Ellie's parents got to meet them.  Having only just managed to "negotiate a peace treaty" between the youngsters and Ellie's mother we thought that this would just blow everything out of the water.  However a visit from Uncle Mick and a conversation along the lines of "Sit down and pin your ears back...." got the message home and the realisation of how delicate the peace is in the family.

 Now while I played Mister nasty, the young couple did realise that it was the sensible thing to do.  The real reason that I did it was to ensure that there was no unnecessary stress added to my Mistress Wife, particularly at the moment when she needs some one looking after her.

In terms of our FLR we are doing fine, as mentioned we have been taking time to recharge batteries and just relaxing.

Last thursday I made the point at the weekly review to slightly inflate my errors so that I would get a higher set of punishments.  Why?  because Madam needed to let off steam and stress and I know that she does get a buzz/ tension release when she punishes me.  she isn't a sadist but the endorphins work in both directions for both the sub and the Dom.  I did pick up a further 6 strokes with the paddle as she realised what I was doing!

It hurt like buggery but it was worth doing!  Madam seem quite content later that evening when I put her to bed.

We've also had a few light hearted moments over the weekend as well, on Sunday morning I got up to make some tea for myself to prepare some breakfast in bed for Madam.  She was sound asleep when I headed for the kitchen and started a brew, I popped some music on as I prepped the breakfast and the coffee percolator did it's thing.  After a while things were coming together and all of a sudden I heard a noise to turn round to find Madam in the doorway giggling to herself.

"How long have you been there?"

"long enough to watch you bouncing around in your satin dressing gown to the Sisters of Mercy!"

Fair play, she did catch me enjoying "The temple of love" (radio edit) by the Sisters of Mercy, a particular favourite of mine and it is frightening to realise that it is over 32 years old!  Well despite my aged frame and knackered knees I can still manage to enjoy a bit of my favourite music and don't care what I look like.  Madam seemed to enjoy my arse moving around barely covered by a bit of satin so that is all that matters! 

Temple of Love - Video

 next weekend give it a try, you might enjoy it!

At the moment things look like they will continue to be busy for Madam at work and I will work to try and keep things calm at home for her, so that she can come home and relax.  I'm hoping that the client of my current project will see the sense in minimising the face to face meetings and switch to Teams/ Zoom meetings.  That will give me the ability to get back into my normal home routine and to be billie more than Mick, mainly as Madam likes me as billie and it helps keep my life in balance.

Well keep smiling everyone and we'll let you know how things progress and if there is any updates on Madam's potential promotion at work. 

Whats Up Doc?

Evening everyone,

it's been a mad few weeks, we haven't been ignoring you but vanilla life has been keeping us all too busy.

For me, I've had a number of follow up appointments with the Doctor and I'm making reasonable progress with my health, it's not fast but we are going in the right direction. Madam is both pleased and surprised with the way that I have been dealing with my diet due to the need to lose weight and the fact that I have had to change some of the types of food.  

However, the visits to the Doctor have also meant that I've had to dig into my very small supply of male underwear! I think I'm down to only 2 pairs and a couple of pairs of "unisex" type of knickers, also I've had to have my chastity removed for each of the medical visits. However as soon as I've returned home I've locked myself back up.

It is something that I've discussed with Poppet Suslut many times, I quite like being chastity, it is somewhat reassuring so I spend as little time out of it as I can. It is different when Madam releases me-that is at her choice and her gift to me. but being released for a medical appointment is to my mind not a release, it is just a temporary practical function to allow scans and X-rays. If you are into chastity as a fetish or part of your FLR this probably makes sense.

Work from my side has also been busy but not in a bad way, I have a couple of interesting projects and the clients are quite good to deal with.

On the other hand work for Madam has become quite busy since Easter, the team that she is part of has been told that they have received funding for a bit of development work and that has secured them for the next 2 years, so while they are happy it has meant that things have stepped up for her, and she has had several working meetings in London, which has meant that when she gets home at the end of the day she is shattered.

we have also been dealing with some family issues with Madam's Sister relating to Ellie and David, this has resulted in us making several visits up to Leicester to try and resolve things, or at the very least minimize the impact across the wider family while trying to support the young couple. These trips invariably mean that we have had to spend most of the last few weekends in "Vanilla Mode".  

All of this is just adding to the tiredness that Madam has at the moment and I'm tempted to call a temporary halt to our trips north, so that she can have a weekend at home and myself and John can focus on pampering her.  We'll come up with a suitable plan between us.

so that is what's been going on with us, so please excuse us as we find our feet again and get back into what will be a normal routine again and start "misbehaving" again.

An Updates and a FLR shared.

 We've been having a very busy few week in our lives for a number of reasons, nothing bad but they really have taken a lot of our time, so the aim of this post is to get you up to date with things.

Firstly my health continues to be an issue but is manageable and I'm following the medical guidance and currently losing weight and doing more exercise.  this will be a long term thing but we have al now settled into a routine that is helping me towards improved  health/ recovery.

Next, has been my work, which has been rather busy but unlike my major project last year, this has been challenging, busy but has been rather interesting, so while it has taken a lot of my home time and also limited time with Madam, it has been a good experience.

The next bit is the main part of this post, over the past few weeks we, Alice and myself, had several sit down conversations with our Ellie and David.  We made the decision to explain our relationship, initially the details of our FLR and how and why we live the way we do and then a little later we also explained about the "cuckolding" side of our relationship.  

The reason that we did it in two separate conversations was that we wanted to see what the reaction was to the details about our FLR with it's elements of Chastity, crossdressing, bi sexuality and punishments, before we then launched with "oh by the way, your Aunt also has a long term boyfriend that spends most weekends over at our house while I'm a completely subservient maid....."

The first conversation was in March when Ellie came and spent the weekend with us, we started it in a very vanilla way, it was very much done as Mick and Alice.  

We have to be really grateful to Carol and Kerri as they had hosted Ellie and David for a couple of weekends down at their house so that they could see their FLR and also to meet 2 other couples that Carol knows that live in different types of FLR.  Apparently that really did lay the ground work and opened both of their eyes to the fact that FLR means different things to different people and that there is no standard fit or model.

We spent the early part of the visit explaining what made us move to having a FLR, what the problems were with our marriage, the verbal fights and the realisation that one of us had to become the Dominant and also combined with the fact that my mental implosion from work related stress etc.  Quite a bit of this was a surprise to Ellie, as we had a very close relationship with her as she had grown up, we can only surmise that we hid it well from family and friends.  With that explained we cracked another bottle of wine and then got into the main part of explaining and showing our FLR.

We talked about our out Public face of Mick and Alice and then explained about the FLR personalities at home which are Madam and billie, we each explained why we had the different aspects and Ellie had quite a few questions to both of us.  things like "What are your Limits?"  "are there things that only happen in the vanilla life or are FLR things always present?", "what happens when one of you wants to switch from FLR to Vanilla personalities."

We made it clear that the FLR is now, and has been for about 20 years, the leading part of our lives and the vanilla is mainly only the outward face that we have with the public. We probably live 95% of the time in the FLR.

We had an interesting conversation when we spoke about our relationship with Carol and Kerri, Alice confessed that she and Carol were Girlfriends, which did not comes as a surprise to Ellie as apparently she had spotted the two of them having a "rather passionate private kiss" when we all got together at New Year.

What did comes as a surprise was when I told her that also have a relationship with kerri, I'd say that she was a little taken aback by that but once she recovered she was full of questions, all positive and very inquisitive.  While she had meet Kevin at our New Year get together, their visit down to Carol's allowed them to meet kerri and to understand more about her and the fact that she was almost always in the female role in their relationship.

Ellie was already aware that I was kept in chastity but hadn't seen it, also she knew that I was required to wear female underwear.  We wanted to makes sure that she understood about billie (and Ms Watson) so I excused myself and went and changed into one of my maids uniforms.  I had already agreed with Alice before Ellie arrived that when I went and changed this would be us switch over to Madam and submissive billie and that I would be in complete submissive role, including defering and being submissive to our niece and I would refer to her as "Miss".  

this allowed us to show the way that out FLR work, it was almost like a "walk through, talk through".  Ellie had lots of questions and observations, and we had lots of things to explain or to add context.  it went really well and she did fully get what we did and why.

Madam also made a point of explaining how and why we did the weekly review, even to the point of providing Ellie with a display and talk on how to apply different types of punishments and cornertime.  

with that done I was dismissed and sent to get changed, this time I simply changed out of the maids uniform and put on one of my satin dressing gowns and rejoined them in the Living room.

The rest of the evening was relaxed with lots of curious chat and questions, Oh and wine, the girls had plenty of wine.

So overall the weekend was a success.  The next stages was for us to travel up to Ellie and David's place at Easter and bring David upto speed on the details of our FLR.  We also got to see the type of FLR that they already had and where and how it came about, it was really interesting to see how it had actually grown and developed.  Apparently what had started with our niece being a goth and taking her then boyfriend to concerts and events, strayed over to being invited to a few events on the fetish side of things to them both taking a liking to being part of the Fetish scene.  It was also interesting to find out that the driver for the move to an FLR wasn't our very forward and clearly sharp and dominant niece but actually David. 

We actually spent several days with them, it was good to get them both on side and one of the important parts was that I spent a long afternoon with David chatting with him and letting him ask questions about any and all aspects of the relationship.  he had questions about my chastity and the dressing side of things.  He was also very curious about my need for humiliation.  It was a very open conversation and it went quite well.

I'll be honest, my view of David has changed, I had the impression that he was very competent at his work, and rather shy and subservient at home.  It's really clear that he is actually competent and confident at work, and his shyness is actually with Ellie's wider family, he is a very confident and comfortable being submissive to Ellie.  What makes him nervous appears to be the fact that he doesn't want embarrass Ellie infront of her family, and it appears that Alice and myself are an important part of that.  Yes, he lets Ellie lead in the relationship, while he is comfortable to follow, but it was good to see that he has a strong voice in the relationship.  (but he isn't topping from the bottom!)

The other part of the conversation that we all had together was to explain to them about the one aspect that we hadn't mentioned, and we made it very clear that it was not to be mentioned or discussed with any other family members and that was the relationship that we had with John, the cuckolding side of the relationship.  We made appoint that it was not an integral part of our FLR, more of a "bolt on" to the relationship, but we also explained that what made it work was the fact that John absolutely understood our FLR and has been willing to embrace it and take part in it.  

Why did we explain it in this way?  well we were keen to make sure that they didn't get the wrong impression and think that cuckolding is a part of all FLRs, which it isn't and also was the fact that all of Alice's previous boyfriends were not involved or did not want to be involved in our FLR.

Again with this revelation there was lots of questions and also the two of them were now looking at us with a bit of a different view of us.  I think we are viewed as being a bit more liberated rather than the "traditional and conservative" couple that they had perhaps thought we were, I think we have been breaking down that impression over the last 6 months bit by bit anyway. 

 So there you have it, it has been a few weeks where we have been a bag of nerves working out how we were going to open up and explain things, and then in small chunks we have laid bare our FLR, exposed it to scrutiny and to questions and I think we did it in a way that has been accepted and understood, even if it has had some real surprises for our youngster.  also as I said it was also good to get a view of their FLR and the journey that they have been on.

It's going to be an interesting journey and I think, well both Alice and I think things will be just fine for them and we've probably made their relationship with us a bit stronger.