Thursday Review - Spanked and humiliated

Currently I'm home alone and doing catch up with chores, house work, home related emails and added to the mix I have to do this blog post.

Madam is currently out doing some Christmas Shopping and then she heads over to Sir's as it is his company's christmas function this evening.  I may have to go and get them this evening or they may get a taxi as the venue isn't far from Sir's house.  If they stay over at Sir's then I'll go and pick them up tomorrow to bring them home for sunday dinner.

As explained in the last post we are trying to get our normal routine back and running, and to be fair we are managing it.

Thursday night was review night.  I had been back from work late in the afternoon but early enough to get changed and to be waiting for Madam with her bath ready.  I was in one of my maids uniforms and I already had the evening meal prepared and ready to go once I knew when madam wanted to eat.

When Madam got home the instructions were straight forward.  I was to change into my short maid's dress and Madam would eat before the review, I would serve her as I should and then I would eat after the review was completed.

At 8pm I presented myself at Madam's study.  I was dressed correctly and with the tutu underskirt as it holds the skirt higher and further exposes me.

As is the normal, I went through my book with the points that I had picked up and noted, faults and what I thought might get merits.  Madam made notes and ticked of in her book where things matched.  It was then the reckoning.  Madam decided that there was a need for a spanking and also 20 strokes with the paddle. Madam also pointed out that since I hadn't felt 100% earlier in the week, probably due to me trying too hard with my diet and not getting eating in balance, she viewed this as a self inflicted situation and as such I should be reminded that I need to take better more care of myself. Madam also stated that she wanted to take a few photos of my punishment.

So with the punishments decided I presented myself and received the hand spanking first, madam uses this as a way to warm my bum up first so that I'm ready for the slightly more heavier punishments.  This was followed by the 20 with the paddle.

I was told to kneel so that Madam could get a good feel of how warm my bottom was and also she played with my plug a few time.  She told me to stay in position and left me while she went to get something.

When she came back I was told to turn round and then she started to tell me off about not looking after myself properly.  I sat there while she stood over me and I was scolded in the way that a parent might tell off a child.  I simply answered with "Yes Madam", "No Madam" and "Sorry Madam".  It was pointed out that since i still hadn't fully learned my lesson from the previous weeks I would spend the night again with 'my friend David' secured in me.

Madam handed me 'David and I was told to lift the hem of dress and the underskirt and to give a comparison of my caged clit compared to the 7" of David.  Madam pointed out that if I continue to ignore her direction she may show this photo to Miss Ellie.  I was made to explain to Madam the difference between 'David' and my cage clittie and why I am cuckold.  Madam had decided that i would also have to endure some more verbal humiliations alongside my physical punishments.

I was told to turn around and present my arse to Mistress.  I was told to remove my plug and to set it to one side.  Madam had taken 'David' and was applying lube to it as I knelt and I expected her to insert it into my recently emptied hole.  That was not going to be the case.  Madam handed me the dildo and I was told to put it into myself.

As I started to insert it, Madam told me to take my time with putting 'David' into my arse, I should take time to slowly fuck myself with 'him'.  As I put 'him' into my hole I followed the instructions given by Madam, and was constantly reminded that it was me that was mounting David, that I was fucking myself with David.  

Once Madam was satisfied with my efforts and as she pointed out she didn't want me getting too carried away but just enough to be excited and frustrated, she handed me the harness that I would wear to ensure that 'David' stayed in place for the rest of the evening.

I put the harness on and adjusted it.  Madam checked that 'David' was seated correctly on the harness pad and I was then told to turn around.   

Madam made me sit down and this made 'David' push fully into me, she checked the front straps and then fitted the padlock.  I was now secure.  

I was told stand and Madam gave me a further inspection and was content that the harness was fitted correctly.

Madam handed me the keys to the padlock and I was told to take them to her bedroom and place them on the nightstand next to her bed, and that I was not to dally!

When i returned back downstairs Madam was in the kitchen and she had placed my dinner on the worktop and one of the stools next to it, she had removed the cushion from the stool and I was told that I was to sit and have my meal.  Again as I sat  down the harness pushed 'David' fully into me.  As I had my meal Madam would chat with me, she would suggest that should get up and go and get something and then come and sit back down.  Once i finished dinner I was made to wash my plate at the sink but again do it by sitting on the stool.

this was the pattern for the rest of the evening.  I would be doing some of my tasks and then be summoned to the living room and then made to sit of the stool while Madam would chat with me.  This continued until bedtime when I had to go up to her room and turn down the bed and then wait until she was ready to go to bed and only at that point was the harness unlocked.

Throughout the evening Madam continued with her verbal humiliation of me, and I'll admit I was a bit of a leaky mess by the end of it.  Madam knows exactly what she is doing and it is a fine art the way that she can humiliate me knowing what will turn me on. Is it wrong that I so love her doing this to me?

As for her showing the photos to Ellie and David?  Well it is possible, but she may not tell them the significance behind each photo...or the whole significance of it.  I probably need to be on my best behavior, and also make sure that I look after myself.

It is Madam's Orders after all!

Normal service has resumed - back to plugs, panties stockings and curtseys

 So how has the week been? well back to a routine, pretty much.

Now that is a good thing for us, due to the turmoil over the last few weeks and months.

As per Madam's last post I can assure everyone that I was thoroughly buggered and fucked with the dildo named David. By the end of my punishment Madam was remarking how easily it was in inserting into to me.  Poppet would be quite please with me I'm sure. But that ended on Friday the 29th November when we turned into vanilla people (makes us sound like the FLR equivalent of werewolves...) and  headed up to leicestershire so that Alice, her sister and Mother could have a weekend sorting things out with reference to the impending marriage of the young couple.

My job was to take my Brother in Law out of the house so that we could leave things to the women folk, I also suspect it was also to stop 'Mick the Bastard' from being too honest and being brutal when he can no longer bite his tongue!

The weekend went well.  The highlights were that my Brother in Law knows where to get a good curry.  Also it appears that he really likes David and thinks he is ideal for his Ellie, which is great news.  It seems like there was some good progress with Ellie's mother and the "hatchets", while not buried they have been put back in cupboards.  Ellie even managed to arrange a hack out (horse ride) for Ellie, her sister, mother and Alice.  It was really good to see them all go riding, almost like when the girls were youngsters, the only problem was that Alice's mother quite up to join them.  the weather even played ball and they managed to dodge most of the rain.

Back home on Sunday evening and I was back in my Maids outfit and Alice was back being the Lady of the house.  I had all of my chores to catch up with and Madam felt that I had spent too long out of lingerie.

Madam also checked to see that I had tightened up and decided that I should be plugged again so I had one of my normal butt plugs added to my uniform.

Monday was a steady day with Madam working at the local office in Milton Keynes and I was playing catch up with some of the paperwork in my office.  Madam was home at a sensible time and her maid was waiting to greet her on arrival and to let her know that her bath was ready for her.  It seems like an age since I had done this for her.  Once she was bathed, changed and down for dinner I was told to change and join her for dinner.  we chatted and then spent a good part of the evening cuddled together on the couch.

Tuesday was a steady day again with me heading out to do some work locally, thankfully none of the journey involved the M1 or M25 Motorway.  Madam had to go into London for a meeting but again we were back home at sensible times.

wednesday found me being released from my cage.  Don't panic, it was only for a couple of hours and it was for a medical appointment.  As soon as I was home I went and replaced my chastity and sent a message to Madam that I was once again caged and that the key was on her desk in the study.

 I also put myself back into panties and stockings, it is one of those things that as much as I want to be out of chastity I don't feel comfortable without being caged.  it more about desiring Madam to release me and it isn't about just getting out of the cage.  I wear the cage because Madam wants me caged and I want to please her, I only want release from the cage when she wants me out of it.  Does that make sense?

Thursday was a day with me spending the bulk of it online but working from the house as my office in the garden was bloody freezing!.  I suspect that my heater is not quite working properly, so I have have plans to deal with that next week.  But as it was I was able to catch up with emails and prepare for a few online presentations and interviews for the next couple of weeks.  Thursday also saw us having the weekly review again.  The result was that Madam decided that I should be paddled for several elements of slack work and also to spend 20 minutes in the corner while she had some Tea and read her book.

Madam is considering setting me some targets after christmas.  As part of my changes to my health and well-being I have to try and get down in weight, having lost 8kg, I'm now stuck 4kg from the target that the doctor wants.  So Madam is considering a target of a kilo a month, so that I can hit the target weight by the May bank holiday weekend.

Friday was really back to routine with Madam working local, no need to get up early for a train to London and I was focused on doing the weekend shop in the morning.  Sir was coming over for the evening and this hasn't happened for several months, mainly due to all of us being all over the place.  but as it was, Madam came home and her bath and a glass of wine was waiting for her and about 20 minutes later Sir arrived and I greeted him at the door and welcomed him in.  

He dropped his bag at the bottom of the stairs and we went into the Living room and he made me display myself to him, where he checked that I was properly caged.  he wanted to know if I was in the right frame of mind for his visit.  I told him that I was and I bobbed a curtsey to him.  I was told to get on my knees and explain to him why he had to come and spend time looking after my wife.  I knelt there and explained my inadequacies as madam's husband and that she needed the services of a man such as Sir and that I am a cuckold for my wife.

now, there is an element of theatrics but it is still humiliating kneeling in front of the man that will be fucking your wife and you have to explain to him why you are not upto the job and as such you have your small clit kept in a cage.  Just to make the point Sir told me to remove his trousers and to fluff him there in the living room so that I could get him ready to go up to meet Madam.

Yes, it was good to get back into the normal routine.

I think we all needed it and it has been a really good weekend, the weather has been rubbish but none of us have really left the house.......I wonder why?

Humiliating a Husband

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So much has been going on

 Afternoon to everyone, over the last few weeks I've been trying to get blog posts done but never got them finished before time and events have taken over. So my aim is to try and bring all of the bit posts into one and bring everyone upto date.

Madame and Sir are away this weekend, I've stayed at home so that I can catch up with things domestically and also in work terms.  but more on that later in the post.

From Mid September - 

Almost 2 weeks ago we received a phone call from Ellie asking if we would be free for the coming weekend, it appeared that David's parents were going to visit the young couple on their way back from their Holiday in the North of England.

While we had some plans they were were not that important and the decision was made to go to Leicester and meet the parents.

We had always said that we would not meet them until Ellie's mother and father had met them and that had happened early in the summer.  Having made the decision on the Monday that we would go there was follow up phone calls to get the plan for the weekend.  

The outline was that they would be arriving early Friday Evening and Ellie wanted to have that as an evening with just Ellie and David with his parents (it would be their first visit to their house, so we supposed that the aim would be to make a good impression on the future "in-laws").  Ellie wanted us to come over late Saturday Afternoon and stay into the evening, this would be just us, the Young Couple and the Parents.

We were a little concerned that this might be a bit long (just incase we and/or they don't get on and it may become a bit awkward.) but Ellie was most insistent. So we agreed as this is Ellie's moment.

The sunday would be a bit more of an open event with a lunch/ buffet/ BBQ being laid on (subject to the weather) for friends and wider family.

The final part of the call got both myself and Alice looking at each other "Oh Can you make sure that you pretend to be normal!"

The response from me was "What are you implying with that comment Young Lady!?" the answer was just a giggle from the other end and "you know, just be normal".

well I get the feeling that since we have allowed Ellie to look into the "pandora box" of our world her view of us is forever changed!

How difficult can it be to define 'Normal'?

Nevermind, as it is we can do a very convincing normal - what ever that is meant to mean.

The rest of the week was busy for Alice at work and I found myself on the road a lot, I had booked accommodation for us over the weekend as we are still not staying with Alice's sister as that is still just a little too uncomfortable.

The Friday evening saw us travel up late and we arrived at the hotel (nothing fancy - functional was the order of the day) and went for some food and simply just had a very relaxed evening with our own company.  Saturday morning saw us dodging showers to try and do a walk in some nearby woods that we used to walk when we were "Courting" each other, so many years ago.  Coming back to the accommodation we had a light pub lunch and then headed back to the room to get changed before heading to Ellie and David's house.

Now the thing to bear in mind is that for both of us our vanilla personas are such that we do have a fashion style that does on occasion make us stand out and our niece may not have realised that while she is used to it, it might cause a second look by david's parents....

So for me it is straightforward - relaxed fit chino type trousers (comfort while caged is very important), waist coat and a light weight tweed Jacket.

Alice was taking a look that was some what "vintage" or retro with long line bra, deep 6 strap suspender belt, tan fully fashioned stockings, creme satin blouse and a pleated knee length skirt.  A pair of 3" heels finished the outfit to perfection.  It also helped that she had styled her hair in a slightly retro fashion as well.  I have to confess she looked bloody stunning and it was most definitely her type of style!

Arriving at the house was interesting, we were meet at the door by David and he looked a little stunned with Alice and I had to quietly say to him to close his mouth and stop staring at Alice.  I also whispered to him that yes they were stockings that she was wearing! as that seemed to be his focus as she walked into the house. Clearly the lad has the same weakness for stockings as I have.

Ellie greated us really warmly and I got a full hug from her and I could tell she was doing a check to see what I was wearing, I had to admonish her and told her to behave!

We were walked through to the living room and were introduced to David's parents. While I initially thought that we might be a little over dressed it looked like we were just fine.

The introductions were easily made and now with drinks in hand we were able to sit down and chat.  The plan was to have dinner early in the evening and just see how it went. The conversation was fairly straight forward and the kind of things that you would expect - what do you do, where do you live, etc.  they seemed interested in the fact that we had been surrogate parents to Ellie and her sister for a period of time.  I think this was them trying to understand the dynamic why this Aunt and Uncle were such an important factor in young Ellie's life and Relationship.

Things got better when we all got up to help set the table for dinner and help with the meal - even if ellie and david didn't want the help.

During a conversation with David's father he commented that he could see where Ellie got her dress style from.  I asked him what he meant and he pointed out that Ellie's style seemed to follow a pattern similar to Alice's.  He pointed out that he had never seen her not wearing a skirt and tights, even when she was fully made up in Goth mode.  I had to laugh and told him that yes that did probably come from Alice but I did point out that that if he wanted see them in trousers then he would probably have to see them when they went horse riding!  I'm not sure if he could cope with the thought of seeing Alice and Ellie in Jodphurs, Riding boots and Riding Crops, the poor lad might have a heart attack!

the chat for the evening was fairly straightforward and easy going, the one thing that did come up was david's mother was quite keen to have them married sooner rather that later, but it was good to see David cut in and make it clear that they would have the wedding once they had everything save up and paid for, also he made it very clear that the wedding would be paid for my him and Ellie, so that no one from either side of the families could take credit or influence the marriage.   I liked the fact that the lad was standing his ground and it was clear that his parents were trying to get us to influence the young couple. - No, we fully supported the pair and we also agreed with them that if they wanted to keep it a small wedding that was good with us as well.

That was about the only contensciencous part of the meeting and evening.

A few days later I had a phone call from david and he thank me (and Alice) for the weekend and meeting with his Mum and Dad. However he did mention that his mother mentioned when Ellie wasn't about that she thought that we had both dressed ready to go to the wedding, he had a bit of a laugh when he told his mother that this wasn't Alice "dressed up" this was just Alice being "Normal".  David mentioned that he thinks his mother may need to up her game so that she isn't out done on the day!

We've mentioned it before but Alice has no intention of turning up dressed like the Mother of the Bride but she certainly will be looking "Classy!", I suspect retro shape wear, Fully Fashioned Stockings and stilettos that would peirce a foot if anyone gets in her way!

From 2 weeks ago -

 I've found myself in a spot of bother this week and I have incurred the wraith of Madam.

On Friday I got home after another week of travelling back and forth to my current project.  I'd made a point of booking a room at a local B&B for Tuesday and Wednesday night as I wanted to get a break from the traveling back and forth as the motorways are a bloody nightmare at the moment and I'm almost spending more time on the road than I am at the project.  On Thursday I arrived home later than I had hoped and Madam had gone to bed due to her having an early start, so not wanting to disturb her I slept in my room.

Friday morning actually saw me being up and going out the door just as Madam was getting up. It dawned on me that I hadn't seen Alice since bringing her her morning coffee on Tuesday morning, so I quickly dashed upstairs to say good morning and to tell her that I love her and that I would see her when I got back.

It was a quick dash in and out but she stop me in my tracks, "Are you alright?", "Yes just a bit of a cold, but nothing drastic."  and with that I was off and on the road!

That evening I got back and found that Alice wasn't waiting for me but Madam.

"You lied to me this morning! Didn't You?"

Well I couldn't bluff it.  No I wasn't well.  I'd spent 2 days on the project site sorting out a bit of a "clusterfuck" and as a result I had been soaked to the skin.  spending most of the day outside and with limited kit meant that I was wet through.  That evening a quick visit to a local big supermarket I got a cheap sweatshirt, Tee shirt and a pair of jogging bottoms, so that I could get out of my clothes and hope that they would dry for the morning.  while they were a good bit drier, they were still damp.

Long story short, I now had a cold/ flu and probably not helped with the lack of sleep and travelling back and forth.

So Madam was some what pissed off with me, for not looking after myself.  I was ordered to strip right where I was in the living room, totally naked and Madam ordered me to my knees and to bend over and to kiss her shoes and apologise for lying to her.

As I bend over to kiss her shoe She took her riding crop from behind her back and whipped me on the arse, down on one of my buttocks.

I was now told to kiss the other shoe and apologise once more.  Again as I did so The crop came down on my other buttock.  

I could tell that Madam was really pissed off with me, there was no warm up, no preparation, these were 2 very hard and stinging cracks with the crop! 

I was ordered to stand up and with that Madam took hold of my ear  and then directed me up stairs to her bathroom.  "Get in the shower, don't you dare come out until I say that you can!"

Madam turn on the shower and adjusted the temperature and I was told to get in and get washed  and to stay until called.  Still slightly stunned I got in and gave myself a good wash and soaked with the shower.  Some time later I was called out of the shower and handed a large bath towel to dry off with.  Once dry I was directed into the bedroom and on the bed some clothes had been laid out.

There was a pair of black tights and my red sleep suit, next to it was my pink pyjamas.  I was told to get dressed all under the stern scowl of Madam.  I quickly dressed and put on the Satin Pyjama trousers and then the jacket.  I was then ordered into Bed.

As I got into the bed it was clear to me that Madam had changed the quilt from the Summer Quilt to the heavier winter quilt.  Once I was in bed and Madam was content, she laid out the rules to me.

"You will stay in the bed until I say otherwise, you can go to the toilet and back into bed, no further.  I will bring you your food and drinks. Do you understand?"

"Yes Madam."

once I had said that she sat down on the bed and my stern Mistress had gone. "I swear to god Mick, I'd bloody kill you for your bloody minded determination at times, if you weren't trying to kill yourself on your own!"

"Sorry!", well it was all I could say really.  she had a point, it wasn't the first time I'm become ill from stepping into projects to get them fixed.  I wasn't too bad this time but Madam wasn't pleased with me and that is a situation far worse than any discomfort or illness could cause me.

Alice was concerned that I was ill with not just the soaking that I had sustained but also being worn down with the travelling and the reduced sleep all added with the other background health issues that I have going on so I totally get why she was pissed at me.

So the result was that I was confined to bed for the next 4 days. meals were brought to me as well as regular black tea with honey and lemon.  No TV or laptop.  She allowed me to have my phone on the sunday to check emails but other than that it was sleeping and reading books.  I had a visit from John who also too time to call me an idiot, but in reality he spent an hour with me chatting and catching up with what I had been upto.

On the Monday I was under orders to stay in bed (I could go to the kitchen for my meals) but had to contact the Project team and let them know that I was not going to be available for the day and that I would be working from home for the rest of the week.  Not Ideal but I was not prepared to incur Alice's wrath again!  so orders were orders.

To be honest I needed it as I didn't realise how run down I actually was.  I also managed to "avoid detection" by Alice mainly due to my early departures and late returns.

However Madam is watching me like a hawk now! 

Present time - End of Oct

Well I've recovered, or as healthy as I can be at the moment.  I've been working from home more often now and hopefully that will continue.  We've been invited to visit some old friends (vanilla life) in the coming weeks and I'm hoping to get in touch with them to make arrangements so that will be good to have a bit of a break.

We have started to get back into our normal routine, I had my backside thrashed last Thursday as there was quite a few misdemeanors to catch up with on my review, hopefully we can start to get more settled  going forward.  Also I hope that this will mean that I can get back into a regular habit of posting to the blog.

so with that I will finish here and get on with the last of my chores before Sir and Madam get back.

Take care of yourselves!

Ups and downs...flashes and bangs!

This isn't the originally planned blog post that I had hoped to post this week but I thought that I needed to get something out this weekend before the start of the working week.

I started a post last weekend about the trip that we had upto leicester to meet Young David's parents -  a very nice couple by the way - however the plan to finish that post over a couple of evenings this past week didn't come about as I've been arriving back home quite late on most evenings. I will get it finished but it still needs some work as neither Madam or I are happy with the way it reads at the moment.

Madam has also had a week of traveling with work and as we came to this weekend it has been a case of literally just catching our breath.

We've had John over as well and it's been more of a just a case of relaxing for all of us.  The one thing that did change was that Madam decided on Friday night that she would change my chastity cage from the small plastic/resin to one of my small all metal one's. 

Now I haven't worn one of my metal cages for a while and the one thing that I noticed that the difference in weight is significant.  So much so that it has been essential to wear the elasticated waist strap.  I was especially glad of it when Madam decided to use her strap-on on me on Friday evening, the waist strap helped to cut down the bounce and stopped the cage from pulling away from me.

Yesterday saw us all going out for a lunch, including me, and after so long in a plastic/resin chastity it was noticeable the difference in weight in my knickers.  It is simply the case that I've become so used to the minimal weight of my normal pink cage.  The lesson from yesterday was that while comfortable trousers are key when in chastity, good supportive knickers are also key when wearing a metal cage!  So many lessons that I had forgotten!

Saturday night, continued as a relaxed evening with all 3 of us just having a slow evening together, just occasionally playing and teasing each other and basically unwinding.  Yes I did remain submissive to both Sir and Madam all evening but it wasn't very much is a formal way.  I think that the way we have all been busy has meant that we just needed time to catch our breath.  That was very much the case as I also ensured that both Sir and Madam were orally served before the evening was done.

This morning, found me in Shapewear of a corselette and stockings with no knickers but heels making breakfast for everyone. Initially I was wearing a satin dressing gown but both Sir and madam kept touching me up as I moved about the kitchen and dining table so much so that I was told just to take the dressing gown off!

Sir headed off after breakfast as he had to meet up with one of his daughters at lunch time.  I was about to go and get dressed when Madam told me to stay as I was and just get on with my jobs in my Shapewear.

Now one of the things that has come about with my weight loss over the last few months is that some of that weight loss has come off my thighs, what that means is that quite a few of my hold up stockings no longer "Hold up".  so they have migrated to my normal stocking drawer, they don't work well with most of my suspender belts but they do work with the metal suspender clips of my shapewear.  I think I'm now at the stage that I need to consider going down from Large size stockings to Mediums.  You could say that it is a benefit of the weight loss but it does mean that the spare hold ups that I have still in the wrappers probably won't be usable the way that they had been bought.  Nevermind! they seem to be ideal to wear with girdles, waist clinchers and corselettes.  

One of the tasks this morning was catching up with the washing and Ironing, too many days on the road travelling means that there was too much of both and particularly as Madam has to look smart as part of her moving up with her promotion, so there are quite a few blouses and skirts to get pressed.

With that I was told to do the ironing in the dining room, Madam wanted to watch me do my chores while she was in the lounge and also so that she could chat with me.  

I set up the small Ironing board that we have on the table and plugged in the Iron.  At that point there was a flash (and it wasn't just my bum!) and I will be honest I almost had a heart attack!  The Iron decided to trip the bloody electrics! It also made Alice squeal, I'm not sure why, she wasn't plugging the bloody thing in!

On investigation my Iron, that I've had for a few years had finally given up the ghost, probably due to the fact that it needed to be used with an adapter, having bought it one of my work trips while abroad.  Having checked that I was alright, which I was, and that Alice was alright I went to check the electrics, no damage done other than one dead domestic appliance and it was a case of simply resetting the circuit, once the offending item was removed from the socket.

Alice then started to laugh to herself and I asked what was funny, to which she pointed out that if I had been electrocuted should she make efforts to remove my sissy clothes before the ambulance arrives or should she just leave me that way for them to see me as her submissive crossdressing husband?

My response what that I hoped she would at least do first aid before considering any of those matters!

But she has a point...... I know that Poppet subslut is always trying to encourage my exposure I'm just not sure an accident is the best way to achieve that!😂😂😂  thankfully we were all fine.  The only issue caused was that I had to go out just after lunch and get a new iron this time with a proper plug and Madam now has all the ironed clothes that she needs for the coming week.

Such are the trials of a chastised domestic submissive!  So to everyone have a good and safe week, particularly when doing your domestic chores!

When your Dom has doubts and a loss of confidence

Apologies for the long delay in posting unfortunately the vanilla world has been a big focus for us in the last 6 weeks.  All 3 of us have had things that filled our calendars and in some respects it has meant that who ever has had the most stable calendar to be the lead in the Household.

For myself I've had a lot of time on the road traveling with work but it has been fairly stress free other than regularly being stuck in traffic jams.

Sir has had 2 activities which have occupied his time one has been spending time with one of his daughters and also being heavily involved with a contract that his company has.  

However the main issue has been with Madam,  with changes at her work she was has been asked to step up into a lead role for her team as a temporary measure, while she has done this several times before it has often been for specific projects or tasks, however this time was classed as the designated lead for the team as a whole.  At the same time she was informed that she was being considered for a permanent promotion.  Madam was quite rightly incredibly pleased to be selected  to go forward for the promotion as the company she works for have a very good internal development programme, but there is a very rigorous selection process to go through.

This process has required Madam to spend time preparing for the different parts of the selection process, interviews at different levels, an in-house exam and also a couple of days doing problem solving and team work exercises.  All of which I get as some of the candidates may get a position that will come with a funded MSc or MBA, so the company wants to know what they are getting.

The problem for Madam started after her initial chat/ interview where she started to have some doubts about her suitability and ability for the jobs/ promotion.  I initially thought that this was down to her being probably one of the older candidates but that wasn't the case.

What was bothering her was the fact that she had started her career as an Admin Assistant.  It seemed that it was a case of imposter syndrome.

I had to sit her down and we had to have a "Mick and Alice" discussion and it did start with "Alice! bloody sit down and listen..."

Over the years I have watched my wife develop, to change and become the wonderful person that she is and that I love.  Her loss of confidence with this opportunity was also transfering into our homelife so it was a case of getting her to recognise that this was well within her capabilities and the thing that she had in bucket loads was life and work experience, with a right skills and competence for this.  I had to remind her that while she may have been an admin assistant at the start but she was now a Project manager and Team leader working on some fairly impressive jobs over the years, all with steady progression and recognition.  This opportunity was just the next step in the process.

I told her that I would help get back upto speed with Project management training (whats the point in being married to someone who teaches the topic if you can't take advantage of it) so that she would be just fine for those elements of the exams.

Both myself and John noticed that her worries were carrying over into our FLR, so as her submissive I viewed it as my job to support her and to make sure that her confidence remained where it should and if needs bolster it.

 We didn't do too bad a job, and it is one of the reasons that I was travelling back and forth with work rather than a more sensible overnight stays.  I wanted to make sure that I was there to support Alice each evening and also to make sure that Madam had her submissive on hand should she need it.  

Our FLR routine became key with all of this, things like the Thursday Evening review were really important as it helped to ensure that Madam had stability and had to stay focused for any of my "mistakes" during the week.

Routine isn't just about giving structure to the submissive, it has a function for the Dominant as well. It also had the purpose of providing a good distraction from what was going on at work and bringing Alice back into being Madam and having the focus and confidence of being the Lead in our FLR.

It worked, admittedly with a little manipulation from me.  You could accuse me of doing a little bit of "Topping from the Bottom"  but it was all for the purpose of making sure that Alice kept her confidence. 

Has Alice been successful ?- Yes.  she was offered a promotion and she has accepted. She has a bit of time to prepare and learn the ropes ready to step up into the new job, so all is good.

So this weekend has been totally about Madam and billie spending some quality FLR time together.  Madam was back in full "swing" and my bottom has been thoroughly used by her, to the point that I need an extra cushion while I work at the computer.

To everyone, thank you for your patience with us, we are hopefully going to get back into a more steady routine with things and back into regular posts.

Take Care

Madam and her submissive.

 

Stockings, Showgirls and Coveralls

Hello everyone, it's been a while but the vanilla world has been keeping all of us very preoccupied.

I must apologise to everyone with blogs that we normally regularly visit and comment on as we have been very poor with keeping up with everyone.  Yes we should all be spanked, but that probably wouldn't be considered a punishment for some of us....

So what has been happening for us, well things have settled down a bit with Madam's family and as previously mentioned we made a point of not meeting Ellie's future in-laws, we wanted Ellie's parents to do that first.  That has now happened and from all accounts went well.  We will hopefully meet David's parents in August.  That will be a very Vanilla weekend, the last thing we need is to cause any family issues from that direction! 

On my side of things work while not busy, it is time consuming as I am spending a lot of time on the road traveling to project meetings and being stuck in slow traffic.  It is does leave me rather knackered at the end of each day!

The other aspect is that I've had to spend a lot of time bidding for work for the back end of this year and into next year.  It takes time but it needs to be done so that I can keep Madam in the lifestyle that she demands.....those stockings and heels don't buy themself!

There has been slight changes with Madam's work, as she has been given a temporary promotion to the head of her project team.  This has given her additional responsibilities but she seems to be enjoying it.  She has been told that she is actually in the running for a formal promotion and is being considered for 2 potentials jobs if she is successful.  Madam is convinced that they have promoted her in her team to assess her, but my view is that her team needed a lead and she was the most suitable and that she should use this as a learning and development opportunity.  However the down side of this is that Madam has convinced herself that she needs to brush up on her Project management knowledge,  If only she knew some one who could do some Project Management revision with her......Yeh, that might be me then.

Here is the dilemma that I have, formally teaching your wife is bad enough, but the fact that she is also your Mistress and every Thursday she spanks/ punish you, it adds another level of pressure to delivering good quality training.    

To provide a break and diversion from Madam's focus on her work and what the future might hold, 2 weeks ago I decided to take her for a treat.  Madam loves going to the Theatre so I managed to get some tickets for a Saturday Matinee of Moulin Rouge.  So John gave us a life to the train station and a short trip into London with a brief stop to grab a Sandwich before getting to the Theatre near Piccadilly ready for the show, while our seats were up in the Gods there was no trouble with the view.

Now I don't mind the theatre, and while musicals are not my particular thing, I have to say that I really enjoyed the show.  But more importantly was the fact that Madam was really getting into it.

The added bonus was that the cast spent most of show in corsets and stockings.  Madam spent a large part of the show rubbing my thighs and feeling the straps of my suspenders under my trousers.  I really enjoyed the show but it wasn't comfortable being turned on by all of the stocking clad cast and a rather excited wife rubbing your leg and occasionally the inside of my thigh.  Madam also made the comment that I had very similar frilly knickers as some of the cast and if she had thought about it she would have made me wear them!

I can assure everyone my chastity was very uncomfortable!! 

I'm also glad that I didn't put my khaki slacks on as they would probably have had a a visible damp spot!

I would say that our trip to London and the Theatre was a complete success, Madam was completely distracted by it all and although it was just a short visit it did help her to unwind for the weekend.  So Job Done!

However it was not job done for me.  On the following day we discovered that at some point a few roof tiles had moved on the house and had been letting water in, so I spent the sunday in a set of old coveralls in the rain up on the roof with the plan to reset the tiles only to find that there was a hole batch of them that were loose/ not properly fixed.  The previous owner strikes again! nevermind I did a quick fix after assessing the extent of the problem and how much water had got in and then worked out what tools and materials I would need for a full repair.  So for the last weekend and the last few days with the good weather that we have had has found me back up the ladder and with a tower scaffold working on doing the full repair to the roof.

I'd like to say that I was properly attired for the job but it was more a case of dressing for the weather with a scruffy T-shirt and set of shorts.

Thankfully the house is now wind and weather tight again, and I'm trying to recover from shifting and laying roof tiles like I did as a 17 year old labourer but then after the job being reminded by my body that I'm nearly 60 and and that I need to bloody behave! 

There, that is quick summary of where we have been and what we've been upto over the last few weeks.  Madam should get word of the selection process for the jobs that she is being considered for in the next few weeks and I suspect that they will want to try and do the interviews before August so we will just have to wait and see - fingers crossed!