Changes but still here.

 Afternoon everyone,

Apologies for the very long gap in posting but the work life balance has been completely out of balance at the moment.

Some of you may know that we have moved house, or to be more honest, we are still in the process of moving.  Having gone through the stressful process of selling our house as well as finding a new home nearer to Madam's work.  Well we have found and purchased a home but be have a few more weeks before we can move in.

In the mean time we are staying with Madam's family, and daily life is very vanilla.  Most of our belongings are in storage and we are effectively living out of a number of bags.

At the moment we are staying with the Mother in Law (MoL) and it is becoming quite stressful for Madam, and it's not great on my side as I have a "Shadow" as I try and work from a small desk in her conservatory.  There is nothing remotely FLR about our current situation as the MoL would pick up on it immediately and she is quite a straight laced individual.

So what is the plan, well we move in to the new house in middle of september and while it is in very good condition we do want to make some changes, such as convert a small bed room to an en-suite for the Mistress Bathroom as part of it as a walk in dressing room.

Also the spare bedroom would become my room.  The kitchen needs work and there is the need for a home office for Madam and also one for me, we know what we want but we also know that we will do it over a period of time.  Madam wants me to be busy as I progress to a "semi retired" balance of work and home life.

Unfortunately it does mean that we'll be busy and the blog will take time to get back to what it was but bear with us and keep popping back to check for updates.

Madam sends her regards to all readers and is equally annoyed that we haven't got the stability that we had hoped for but hopefully that will change very soon. 

Purging the Wardrobes

 

Its' been a busy old period here in the midshire of England as Madam and I go through the process of trying to sell our current property and look for a new home back in our original home area of Leicestershire.  We have been faced with quite a few challenges least of which has been dealing with estate agents, If we hear one more time about how a specific property will be perfect for us and then promptly find that it is a 1 bedroom former Air B&B located 2 streets from Madam's sister I'm sure Madam will rip the throat out of the agent!  Bless her!

So while I have been very busy with doing renovations, repairs and decorating to make our current house meet all the expectations that a potential buyer might want and playing host to those that come for viewings, Madam has been enduring the occasional stay with her Mother when she is working up in the leicester area.

One of the things that this move has done is force us both to do a serious look at our wardrobes and drawers.  the reason being is that we are down sizing, we know that we are and we are also realistic to accepted that for both of us we will need to reduce the size of our wardrobes.

For me it has been straight forward for my vanilla work wear, there has been a few items into the Charity bag but generally it isn't too big a collection.

For Madam, she has had to look at what she needs for her work wear, in terms of Office smart and Office casual.  what has become clear is that she has had a clear out of quite a few shoes.  Her casual and social wardrobe is the one that has taken a serious hit as she went through it being quite ruthless and she thinks that she has quite a sensible clothing collection now.

What has taken quite a cull for both of us has been the FLR wardrobes and in particular has been my underwear drawer.

There has been a reappraisal of things such as thongs - when did I last were those? and anything that has a heavy lace front to it.  why the lace front? well the current Chastity cage allows my foreskin to pop out the end of it and it is like wearing a bloody cheese grater!  so those have gone!

We have also been realistic enough to look at some of the other items, particularly the Basques, for both of us that don't fit anymore.  Both Madam and I have lost weight and as such there is a few of the basques that just don't work anymore.

We have also looked at some of the outfits and also done a bit of rationalisation on things and got rid of things, either due to wear and tear, not fitting or in Madam's case "Did I really used to wear that? Oh no, time for that to go!"

It has been quite good to have this clear out and also to understand better what we have.  it also means that we also now have a better handle on how much stuff we have to move or to store (there is a real risk that we will be moving out before we have our new place so things will be going into storage.)

The other side of this selling your home process is the fact that we have people coming around the house to view it for a potential sale and as such we have had to make sure the place is "very vanilla" and that the overt signs of our FLR have been discretely tucked away.  I'll be honest it is a bloody pain but we are making head way.

We just need to find the right place to move to....and the chances are we'll do that without the overly helpful advice of the bloody estate agent!  

Update from both of Us

 From Madam Alice,

Evening everyone, we thought we would give a short update as we are a little behind in posts and blogging.

As many of you will know I moved into my new job full time at the start of April and this has seem me become a very busy bee, with a mix of travelling between various client and project locations and also with me working back in Leicester.  

What this has meant for billie is almost a reversal of roles, with him staying and working from our home in Milton Keynes.

Over the last 6 months we have been really looking at our life and the changes - in terms of work -  and we have decided that we are at a stage where we do need to change.

For billie it is a case of him slowing down and progressing towards retirement.  so this means a bit of a transition to semi retired and phasing out the high intensity work that has been his speciality for many years.  The phase out will allow him to finish commitments and work contracts and try and create a new routine for himself.

For me I am now full into my new job and an significant part of it is client engagement with their project teams and this means lots of the working week away from home in the Leicester, Derby, Nottingham area, while up to now I have been in temporary accommodation there is a need to become more settled.

So we are moving, currently we are house hunting in the Leicestershire area, with the aim to sell and move north from our current home.

While this is a move that eliminates a 1 hour drive for me, there are times on a Monday and a Friday that this becomes a 3 hour frustration of a commute.  We have also had to look at this in terms of the fact that it will move us closer to the family, my mother in particular and also nearer to Ellie and David.

We have been spending a lot of time over the last 18 months traveling up and down to Leicester for family matters and now with work that it was becoming obvious that we would be moving.

What does this mean for our FLR - well really no change.  Both Mick and I are both in agreement that the core part of our marriage is that of our FLR, so billie and Madam will remain and continue as the main part of the way that we live.

For our relationship with John, while there is now physical distance between us, it appears that this may well be a bit of a blessing for him as it means that he will be able to have less "formal" relationship with Myself and billie, and the distance may help to calm the "relationship questions that he has with one of his daughters.  so it will still work for all of us, it's just that John will not be a regular at our new place every Friday.

So at the moment mick/billie are being kept very busy with the preparation works for getting our house ready for sale.  He has already had a detailed survey done and is well on with everything that was highlighted as being required either for the sale or to help with the price.  Unfortunately it does mean that we have more of "Mick the builder" and not quite as much of "billie the maid".

The other aspect is that we have started the search for a new home and that comes with it's own trials.  We are downsizing as the current home was originally purchased as a place where we could continue to bring up our nieces if required (as my sister was still in remission for cancer at the time).  Well we don't need that amount of space now.  So long as we have some space for billie to sleep when John or Carole visit and I have a work area.  billie has already looked at what is required for an office in the garden so we know what we are looking for.  The bit in all of this that will be the challenge is finding a place that has the right amount of privacy.  So we are being quite selective on what we go and look at.

So that is an update from us, there is lots going on and we will try and get back into a productive and settled routine for posting, but just bear with us as we try and find that routine. 

 

Good News - Poppet's Back!! Now Back Up, Back Up, Back Up!

 After a very nervous few weeks, Poppet has received the the good news that her numerous appeals have finally been successful.

So her blog page is back and Poppet hasn't delayed with creating updates, so please go to her site and let her and Owner know that you've missed them

https://poppetsubslut.blogspot.com/

I know that Poppet will now be backing up her blog and getting that stored safe just incase there is another problem with the Blog, but my advice to everyone who has a blog is back up your blog so that if you do need to find a new blogging home then you can get that set up and then import your blogger posts into the new site.

I'm going to look at providing a dedicated post on the process that we followed when we lost our blog in the past.  Also there is a few other thoughts that I have on how to create a "back up bolt hole" for your blog.  Hopefully I can get that that pulled together and posted at the weekend.

But overall it is really great news that we now have Poppet back!  

Poppetsubslut's Blog site

 Dear All,

On Thursday we got some bad news and that was that Poppet's excellent blog had been taken down with no warning.

Poppet contacted me to let me know that there was a problem.  Blogger seems to have taken the site down on the ground of "Violence and Gore" with no notice or warning.   Now for those of us that have long been fans of the blog it doesn't fall into those categories.

Poppet has lodged an appeal and is waiting to see what the response will be.

However Poppet has asked that I let everyone one that both she and Owner are OK, somewhat Annoyed/angry/ confused etc, but they are both OK and hoping to get the appeal approved.

So to everyone, keep your fingers crossed and hopefully poppet will get the blog back.

For those of you that have a blog, please please please do regular back ups so that you have your site saved, so if you do need to move it can be imported to a new site fairly easily.

Should anything happen to this blog please book mark my back up site:

https://madamssubhub.com/

I will keep you updated with progress as and when Poppet passes the information onto to me.  Please keep your fingers crossed for Poppet and Owner and that they get the blog back.

 billie xxx

Amusing myself and entertaining my husband

 From Madam Alice

In my previous post I wrote about how I was trying to get used to this new way of working that I now have, the process of being away from home and my husband for 3,4 or 5 days at a time.  One of the challenges that I have struggled with is the fact that this work pattern has meant that the well established routines that billie and I have had has been completely changed.

Even coming home on a Friday means that you don't simply drop into the previous routine that you had. having discussed this with billie, he views it differently but I think this is due to him having more experience in doing this style of work.

However, I have not been content with this and I have decided that I will try and create another routine for the period that I am away.

Why? well I miss my husband and I don't want him to feel ignored or to to be lonely.

So I make a point of calling or messaging him each morning between 9 and 11am and this is not wife and husband , this is Madam and submissive time.

I want to know what he is doing for the day.

What is he wearing. I may tell him to go and change.  

I may ask him to send me a photo or to call me back immediately with a video call.

I may set him a task for the day or tell him to ensure that he has his phone on in case I send him a task.  These tasks may have a time limit for them to be completed by.  

For example if I know that he is in his office I may tell him to go and find a particular suspender belt from my bed room and bring it back to his office and send a photo of it on his desk and he has 4 minutes to do it in.  Failure to meet the deadline will result in a punishment at the weekend when I get home.

It is important not to set patterns as I want him to be on the back foot, but I don't want him to fail, I just want to make them challenging for him.

So this week I have been pandering to his love of being humiliated and emasculated. I know that I am spoiling him but I do love the way that he blushes and the fact that it does make his caged clittie try and get erect when I give him a special task to complete.

On Monday he was working from home he told me that he would be involved in a dial in meeting, no video, so as his evil Mistress I directed that he should spend the meeting just in lingerie and sat on a dildo. At two points during the meeting I managed to message him and he was required to send me a photo.

Tuesday, he was going to be working away from home, but we spoke just before he left and I decided that I didn't like what he was wearing under his clothes, so I made him go and do a complete change of his lingerie and stockings to something that I wanted him to wear, such as Open bottom girdle, different lace top stockings and the full brief panties with the sheer back to them.

Yesterday when I called he was going to have a day taking part in some on line meetings.  he was wearing a polo shirt and one of his knee length skirts. I asked what he had on underneath and asked him to show me, after a short chat I decided that the skirt was too long and that he must shorten it so that his stocking tops could be seen.  I also told him that for his meetings he must keep his camera switch on unless the person leading the meetings expressly told him to turn the camera off.

At lunch time I sent him a message to take some photos to show me the adjusted length of his skirt.

I also did a short session of verbal humiliation with him, something that causes some discomfort to his pathetically small caged clittie that hides in his sissy knickers.  As a parting task I required him to email me with his photos and also to send a brief confession to Kerri and to his dear friend Poppet on why I keep him in chastity and why I need the services of a lover.

Am I cruel? a little but I also know what my husband needs and as I'm not at home to meet those needs I think that this daily tasks and checks on billie do both of us good.

As a parting task to those that read our blog, I ask that if any of you feel inclined you can leave a short humiliating comment for billie, my emasculated submissive cuckold, and I will get him to tell me which ones are the most appropriate.
 

Changes and Absence makes the heart grow fonder....

 From Madam Alice:

I know that I have not written for a bit of time but that is due to a number of things, mainly as Blogger still has restrictions on my account, so I'm doing this post via billie's account.  the other thing is the fact that work is creating changes in our lives.

While this may sound bad, it isn't the end of the world but it has made me realise that there has been some things that I have taken for granted for a very long time.

Over the years there has been times when billie has worked overseas and away from home for extended periods of time.  He has done this to provide for me and also for members of my family.  there is a lot been done to ensure that we have a comfortable life.  We are not rich by any means but it has meant that my sister and her children have had a home and that I have been well looked after.

When ever the opportunity arose Mick (billie) would come home to me and I have to say he would be enthusiastic to see me explaining how much he missed me and at times it was all too much, and on such occasions I would 'snap' at him to calm down.

I know he missed me and I know that he genuinely loved coming home to me, but for me , at the time he was coming back into my carefully established routine and creating waves and changes rather than just slotting into the routine that I had.

Why am I writing about this?  Well for the last few weeks I have found myself working away from home.  This isn't like being on a visit or away on a training course, but actually spending Monday to Thursday/Friday living out of a bag.  And it is likely that this will be my working pattern for some time to come.

Now this isn't a complaint about the work, the work is great and I am really enjoying the challenge of it.  I also love the fact that Mick/billie is so supportive of me doing this.  The thing is I am starting to understand why my husband was so enthusiastic when he came home.

Spending time away from home, with its routines and my things, and my space and most of all being away from my husband makes me want to get home to him.  I miss him, I miss him alot.

Now I'm only a few hours away from him, I can call him.  but when I go to bed tonight he isn't there to come and join me and to cuddle in behind me, he isn't there to put an arm around me to make me feel safe and wanted.  I know I'm the Dominant in our FLR but I miss being cuddled and hugged by my submissive.

And he isn't there to wake me with his tongue in the morning!

To put it simply I miss my husband and I can't wait to get home to him tomorrow evening.

I now know why he was so enthusiastic to come home to me.  He did far longer away, when phone calls were more expensive and mobiles weren't quite the technology that they are now.

I also shudder to think about the restrictions that he had when living out of a bag when he was in the Middle East or working in Germany.

So I have a respect and understanding for my husband and I have a bit of guilt for 'snapping' and losing my temper with him when in reality he was just overly keen to let me know that he loved and missed me!

So does this mean that I'm going to stop doing this job? well that is one option, but there are others, but it isn't for me to impose them.  

Billie and I have had several chats, with him advising me on how to deal with this work style of being away.  I also want to know how billie feels about it and what he thinks. So we will see how things progress.  

  Just as a final piece - billie and I had a very lovely valentine's day together.  it was good to spend time with him and he did pamper me.  

I did resolve his frustration issues, with a very long session of edging which ultimately resulted in a rather spoilt orgasm for him which he was very grateful for.  And while this may all sound even more frustrating what you have to remember is that my husband gets incredibly turned on by humiliation and also by...Me! so having a long evening of edging fun was very wonderful for both of us.